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0:00 Most homes we're talking about we can't hurt people, we can't hurt our stuff and I won't let you hurt yourself as sort of like our baseline and then everything kind of flows from there. There are times even when a child is maybe crossing one of those boundaries where it would actually be appropriate for you as a parent to be like, "Nope, I'm not stepping in." And that would be if you stepping in carries with it a risk of
0:26 you like vomiting out your mouth all your own programs in myself. I always feel it come up from my belly and it's just like this sort of wave that starts to take me and I know before it gets to like the last cortical cell in my brain that I need to go to the bathroom, you know, like I just need to buy myself a minute to take a breath to come back to center to remember the truth of who I
0:47 am, who my child is, and then I step back into the moment and hold that boundary with firmness and kindness in equal measure. When we can do that, then all is right in the
Summary
- Establish a baseline of safety: no harm to people, property, or self.
- Recognize when to step back instead of intervening, especially if personal emotions are overwhelming.
- Use self-awareness to manage emotional responses before addressing a child's behavior.
- Balance firmness with kindness when enforcing boundaries.
- Taking a moment to breathe can help parents regain perspective and clarity.
- Maintaining boundaries helps create a stable environment for children.