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0:00 I saw that when you were training and I was like, "Okay, that's good." You're like, "One more. One more." >> Yeah. Yeah. >> You don't need somebody pushing you. >> I have my own like determination. My determinations like up there. You're pretty scrappy. >> I love struggling, actually. You do? >> Yeah. It makes me feel alive. Alyssa Leo has an amazing parenting lesson for us right here. I'm Dr. Becky and I'm a clinical psychologist. I'm also a mom of three and I'm the founder of the parenting platform Good Inside. And what Alyssa Leo so beautifully says is resilience really isn't about getting to success. It's not about landing the jump. Resilience comes from loving struggling. Isn't that interesting? When our kids are struggling, so often we think we have to lift them out to build resilience and confidence. No.
0:44 Resilience and confidence come from tolerating frustration, tolerating the process, tolerating the struggle. Here are three things you can say to your kid today that help them learn to tolerate and eventually love the struggle. Number one. This feeling means your brain is growing. Number two. It's okay that this is hard. Hard is how we all learn. Number three. Stay with it. I believe in you and I'm right here. Let's teach our kids how to love the struggle.
Summary
- Resilience is built through the experience of struggle, not just success.
- Embracing challenges can lead to personal growth and confidence.
- Parents often mistakenly try to remove struggles for their children, but this can hinder resilience.
- Key phrases to encourage children include:
- "This feeling means your brain is growing."
- "It's okay that this is hard; hard is how we all learn."
- "Stay with it. I believe in you and I'm right here."
- Teaching kids to tolerate and appreciate struggle is essential for their development.