DAY 11 Viral Wisdom Course 04-20-2020: THE GREAT PAUSE

0:01 hi everyone how are you it's my vial of wisdom day number 11 I've been teaching this course called viral wisdom online for all of you here on Instagram and here on Facebook and I'm so excited that you are here with me hi guys tell me where you're from where you're joining me from so that I can know which

0:36 part of the world you're from and tell me how you're doing I mean how is this lockdown this crisis affecting you has it affected you on a personal level in terms of losing someone you love has it affected you on a personal level in terms of your job how it has it deeply affected you I know as a therapist I've been meeting so many clients and so many

1:06 people in my practice for whom this has been a very personal very deeply fundamentally traumatic life event and I think on a global level this has been traumatic on a global level we are now going to be in some form of a post-traumatic stress this is just undeniable you know when things like this sweep across the globe once in a

1:37 lifetime there is a tendency for an aftereffect a ripple effect and this is normal this is how the psyche copes at first in the time of the struggle it manages it dissociates it goes through a denial and it just adjusts because it has to but the psychological impact of such a drastic shake around such a drastic event the ripple effects of that

2:09 lasts forever and what I'm trying to do with this wisdom course is help you booster and buffer your psychological health so that the effects of the trauma can be integrated more clearly now there will be effects of trauma I will be experiencing effects of trauma I am experiencing it the the fact and the point of it is not to not experience the trauma trauma occurs when there is a

2:39 drastic dramatic life change it's traumatic there's no need to act like we're braver than the trauma it's okay to say I am traumatized I am traumatized it's traumatizing the point is not to not get traumatized the point is to integrate the trauma in a way that it enters your psychological strata in a way that makes sense that

3:13 you can develop some meaning around that you can integrate so that you can then move on life is traumatic life is suffering the Buddha said the point is not to deny it the point is not to escape it the point is to understand it so that it can be integrated it can be psychologically adjusted to so that you can then move on

3:44 not move away from just move on further evolved because of the trauma not despite of it in spite of it so trauma is a part of life the the delusion is that we can run away from trauma the delusion is that we can hide from it you know if a pretty enough rich enough married enough children parents enough we can hide from trauma we can't life is traumatic in its own

4:17 way one person has a cancer one person has you know a miscarriage one person doesn't and they write passion one person can't find a life partner it doesn't matter life can be traumatic it is undeniably so so the point is not to escape the trauma of life but the point is to integrate it to understand it to take charge of it to grow because of it you know as a child some things happen to me in my personal life by strangers that

4:49 were traumatic now what can I do I have a choice I can either choose to forever react to the trauma through a blind anger blind hatred behind a blind fear or I can choose to integrate the trauma and go I am this person because of this and how can I uniquely contribute to the world because of this trauma not running away from it but because of so we are in that moment in time now we are all being

5:17 traumatized we have all been globally shocked we are all in a global staggering state of stupor we're all on pause going what's going to happen next well this course that I'm trying to do every day with you and Instagram and you and Facebook is to help you understand the now what and the only way to create or transform into the now what is to now enter the what is and as we enter the present moment with the right

5:47 understanding then the future gets created the future is doesn't exist as I said yesterday the futures only existed in how you are in the present how you are in the present creates the next moment then the next moment creates the next one and so on and so forth so if you want to emerge from this in a different way if you want to know now what whether now what cannot come out of a void then now

6:14 what is created by you and me now now the now what is now just the question now what is what is the now so let's look at them now and focus on them now and all we have is them now and then we can create the now what until we know what is the noun right so what is the noun we are right now in this state of shock right in a state of stupor we were

6:40 transplanted from our routine from a complacency from our normalcy right this is the nature of a crisis the crisis comes into our life unbeknownst right if it did not come unannounced it would be called a crisis the reason it's called a crisis is because it just comes okay so let's accept it let's not eat tantrum Inc and upset how did this happen why did this happen you know blaming this person or that person the American or

7:08 the Chinese or the Spanish of the Italian or the bats of the birds does it matter it doesn't matter doesn't matter if it's Republican trauma or Democratic trauma doesn't matter if it's rich torn our poor Thoma it is traumatic so stop looking to blame the the president of the prime minister or whoever it doesn't matter it's here it's in your private lap right now in this room that I'm in the room doesn't care if it's democratic or Republican or

7:37 Chinese or or Asian the room doesn't care if it's from a bat or of swine it doesn't matter in this current wound all that matters is me and my relationship to this trauma so it is with you so quit the excessive thinking of what if and what what will happen when get into the present moment and ask Who am I now what is my relationship with this trauma so trauma and a crisis by nature is never

8:08 called for no one in their life says oh you know I have become very complacent I need a shock why don't why don't I call upon the universe to take away something from me so that I can learn humility and grace and surrender why don't I have something happened dramatically and we don't go around begging for something to get about us from our state of normalcy so by nature these things have to happen without our consent otherwise we are not going to

8:38 grow so now this happened without our consent on a myopic level on an individual level many of us have experienced individual traumas by the age of eleven I a couple of traumas already you know so all of us in our lives have experienced some sort of trauma somebody could get burnt subject could have an accident somebody who somebody's mother could be depressed it doesn't matter I have rarely or perhaps never met an individual who has not had some

9:06 shade of trauma okay whether called upon by themselves or not something traumatic trauma is part of life this one also is part of life it happened through infinite cause-and-effect we don't even know we shouldn't even try to find out because we will never find the real cause right and the media will always blame some animal or some nation or some race because this is the nature of sensational media so what does that matter for you and me for you and me

9:36 doesn't matter how it started for you and me it matters that it's here in our lap right now now how do we handle the what of the now not the now what but the what of the noun right so what is happening now in my life in my lap oh I was transplanted from my original plan from my way my life was going rudely boldly brutally transplanted from that and now I am in the now but the thing

10:07 that is really traumatic is that I don't know that now what and the truth is we never know that now what all we can know is the what is in them now so here we are now the peculiar part of today is now is that we are all in a dark tunnel and dark only because we cannot see yes not because the the color dark is bad it's just dark we just cannot see but the beautiful thing about being in a

10:39 tunnel where you cannot see is that you're forced to activate other senses you're forced to activate other senses you're forced to stop relying on what you can see what that means metaphorically is that stop relying on just the five senses of gas station or fraction visual auditory sensation stop depending on your five senses this has been the problem we have been living our life contained and

11:11 capsized by our five senses we think this is the only thing we have and we've been relying on these five things that's why when you're tired you want to go eat you want to go drink you want to activate your vision by watching something you want to stimulate your senses this is the problem now we are in the tunnel of darkness we cannot see we cannot taste nothing seems familiar this virus even takes away your sense of

11:41 taste and smell right so we can't see because we don't know what what's going to happen so in a way it's blinded us it's taking away our sense of taste and smell Wow it gives us fevers and chills so our whole body sensation is gone right so what's left right most of the senses have been shut down because of this we can't breathe so now we are asked to and this is in any crisis to go

12:07 beyond what was originally known a crisis is a crisis because now we are in a place where we don't know this is why it's a crisis it's not so much a crisis because of the the stimulus it's a crisis because it datapath us into the unknown so all of us are globally for the first time together in a deep and dire state of I don't know I don't know when I will be let out of the house I

12:35 don't know when this is going to end I don't know if I even like my children anymore I don't even have no ever like myself I don't know if I like my partner I don't know I don't know if I can go back to my old job anymore I don't know whether I live in this house anymore so the I don't knows our resounding echoing they're huge they're they're plundering your consciousness and it is terrifying us because we are globally together in

13:01 an I don't know state and we're looking for answers from this one or that one or this and nobody damn knows right one of my friends lost her husband in the physical and she said that the doctors would not come on the phone because they didn't know and she's like who knows and who will know who knows so now we are confronted with who knows but the truth of the wisdom of the eternal truth is that we never ever knew the

13:31 next moment so what do we know we know now and in the now we have been missing so much of our reality and it is time now to go beyond our senses and turn inward to appreciate what have we been missing so let me tell you what have we been missing we have been missing so much we have been missing so much let me tell you just now sitting here are you aware of the maybe 15 systems in your

14:01 body and I'm not a scientist a biologist so I can't rattle them all off but your circulatory system your respiratory system your digestive system your pulmonary system everything right now do you understand has been working for you right now every system in your body has worked intricately for you the fact that we woke up today and I know this is cliche oh we woke up today be grateful but now it's time to really pay attention to this cliche you woke up

14:34 today do you understand so you have one more chance to do it right right meaning to do it connected do it awake do it aware do it present you have one more chance to go outside you have one more chance to go to work you have one more chance to hug your kid you have one more chance to sit in silence and presence one more chance to experience this body this way this is huge and I know it's cliched I'm

15:01 only repeating whatever every smart wise person says but I want us to truly enter this you know when I think about all the systems in my body that work all of them work right now my hormonal system my my everything digestion pulmonary circulator respiratory all of it works together in tandem that I feel right now who said I was deserving of this who said I deserved to see to taste

15:31 to touch right and that's why when this virus takes this away from us we now realize but I'm asking you to realize it right now so you know they say God is in the details so this is what I mean we have been missing all the details all the things that are beyond the seen and the taste and the touch and the felt because we have been consumed by our senses so in this great pause there is not only a

16:01 great purge right but there is a great all right so I believe this this present moment in time is a great past it is a great purge purging of what purging of all the excess in your life you know so many of my girlfriend's routines that they have worn the same sweatpants for a week or they're not getting the hair colored or you know they're Botox appointment it cannot be fulfilled or they're not wearing their jewelry or their makeup or

16:32 their perfume and I asked them are you okay are you fine are you losing out on anything and they all go no it's so freeing that we don't have to wear makeup every day and then we don't have to go get ready every day we don't have to I am damned things every day so we then get to realize that perhaps we have been living in excess so this is an opportunity for a purge at least on

16:58 the material level at least on the surface level take care of all the things that you need to purge off I have a whole list of things that I'm keeping from my girlfriends to redistribute and to recycle and to let go right this is a moment to realize we women especially and I say this because we you know put so much focus on our external honor honor adornments on our dress on our makeup for us women it is such an

17:26 opportunity to pare down to purge to streamline and to really stop giving a damn because it's time it's just time first women to stop playing the game and stop giving a damn because we been living besieged and beleaguered by our appearance and we have driven ourselves and people around us crazy but spent a whole lot of money doing it so it is a great pause it is a great purge and it is a great moment of all now when

17:57 I say all I mean it at every level the or of our mortality the all of our fragility the all of the in transient of the transient nature of life the impermanent nature of life the all that this is literally a feather blow breath away it's just a feather blow it and that's it this is all that life is at the end of the day it's literally a feather blown away as light as fragile

18:29 as Airy as ethereal as a feather so when you begin to understand this at a very deep level then you realize that you have been obsessed and focused on all things not feather all things not light all things not ethereal you have been focused on things that you did not need to be focused on and this is the grand wakeup calm the wake-up call of wake-up

19:00 calls that we have been living a life dependent on the wrong things and if this lesson isn't received if we don't understand this person at rest lesson for our now then we would have missed it we would have missed this opportunity to turn things around a crisis is a turning point but if we turn to come back we haven't turned to truly turn we have to go somewhere else we have to leave and go right I tell all my clients when they

19:33 come to me and they're so unhappy I say to them if you want to change you have to leave one and go to another leave one place leave one for nation leave one psychological way of being leave it so there's the death there's a mourning there's a shedding there's a release and then you have to go meaning you have to invite you have to call in new a new psychological space a new psychological

20:05 growth this is not about going from one lover to the next yes or one job to the next this is all about the internal so you have to leave one transformation one way of being your old version of yourself then you have to walk a path that's I call no-man's land or no woman's land you have to walk that that's a scary path that's the path we're in right now it's the tunnel where you can't see you can you can see but

20:30 you can't see because the new has not yet come so you leave the old formation there's a middle path and then there's the new this middle path is damn scary and that's why you want to run back you want to go back but really the middle path already indicates that the old was meant to go the old was meant to go now we can go back and cling to it like fools all we can be wise enough to

20:56 understand the old was meant to go it was meant to go and with that comes a death it release is shedding in mourning lots of Tears because that was familiar even if you didn't like it it was familiar so now when that goes now you're in the desolate land a barren land between the two worlds going now what but the only way to answer the

21:26 question now what is to turn it to what is in the now what is in the now what is in the now and when you keep turning the question now what - what is in the now now you enter possibly a pause a purge and you enter all because in that now there is a lot there's a lot of that you need to purge and there's a lot of glory that you need to be in awe of

21:58 and it's this that needs to be done between the two worlds which is where we are right now we need to shed shed shed the old and inviting the new right but while we're doing this let it go and inviting in this present moment we realize right here right now oh my goodness so much is working in my life so much is alive in my life so much is present in my life

22:31 the richest or the poorest can wake up every day and go I have this body this mind this heart I have some I have a smile that can radiate love I have fingers that can touch my children I have an enormous capacity for compassion and love and empathy I have so many tools right now but these tools are all in the level of the formless and this formlessness is where we don't like to live but this virus lives in the

23:02 formless and true love true life lives in the formless it is going beyond that which we can see so when you understand that in the man what is in mine now is a lot then you begin to see God in the details and you not only see God in the details you see God in the in the places that you don't want in your life for example many people are complaining that the teenagers are this and their

23:29 children are this and then right and I say to them you know if you have a teenager that's yelling at you and fighting with you that's a teenager who cares to yell at you if you have a partner right now that you and she are bickering and bickering and bickering and you're complaining remember you have a partner with whom you can grow through may not be your ideal life partner but right now this partner is here because you wanted the

23:53 partner here and the partner is here to show you how you can be more strong how you can grow so everything you're complaining about right now is God so to speak right is the magnificent is the sacred and if you begin to look at your life like that now you are in awe I have children okay I have children who you know I'm not getting along with but I have them and now I can turn this vanish

24:18 around every single day I have clothes I have things I have food I have a body I have a smile I have eyes I can see when you do this every day what is in my now what is in my name and you truly look for the God in the now right so to speak the goddess in the now the sacred in the now your entire life begins to pivot differently you begin to move from lack and scarcity and tantrum

24:47 in and resistance into abundance into abundance in dominance right this is how we begin to shift our life on the inside we don't wait for the now what we ask what is in the now what is in the now so I want all of you to write down what is in you now that you are in off make a list and tell me what is in your now and the now involves the all the invitation but also the pause and the purge look at

25:20 your now in your life and ask yourself what is excessive throughout all that makeup you don't need anymore throughout all those extra merits of shoes that you never wear give it to someone in a church or synagogue who can recycle and redistribute I'm giving away tons of my stuff to people who I know and may need them because I believe now it is time to redistribute it is not time to buy anything more it is time to

25:46 purge and redistribute those who have need to give to those who don't this redistribution needs to happen now and this virus is showing us that take care of your elderly take care of you of your neighbors stop buying I love it when I go to Amazon nothing is available for another 30 to 40 days it's teaching me to ask do I really need it and I stopped buying my bill my bills that used to be so excessive so small I'm like I didn't

26:16 buy anything this these five weeks Wow so if I didn't buy anything these five weeks I obviously most of the things I bought I didn't need because I've been doing just fine right we have not been ordering out that much not that I don't want to support restaurants to support restaurants but all the excess that we've been we've been indulging in now needs to end right if we make a pledge as a humanity no more buying new things but redistributing all

26:46 that we do have now you tell me the planet will not change so where does it begin it doesn't begin with your governor your senator it begins with you and me one is a million one is everyone don't wait for another it starts with you how does it start it starts with you understanding your trauma understanding and accepting whoa I'm in trauma what does that mean my old is no longer my new hasn't come yet right now with the

27:18 traumatic in between how do I handle this traumatic in between how do I walk every moment in this dramatic in between so I can invite it in your consciousness how do I do it I do it very simply by stop asking now what but instead ask what is in the now change the focus and in the now it's a pause in the now it's a purge and in the now is a great big sense of all when you

27:51 do this purge pause purge and stay in all pause purge and stay in all you will take step by step by step by step toward your new tomorrow now when you have to purge don't just burn your clothes and your shoes that's not enough that's not enough you have to purge all the inauthentic ways you have been living all the ways you have been living so small thinking you can't all the people that you thought you were dependent on

28:20 but now you're seeing hmm I'm not so dependent on them am i I'm living on my own in a way this virus by sending us all to our own homes has actually what it's doing is showing us you can do it you don't need culture you don't need society to endorse you you don't need the crowds of your friends your colleagues go home what that means is go home go home go inside go to this home and see that you are self-reliant

28:51 you are autonomous but we are interconnected you see how brilliantly this virus is teaching us the wisdom of life on one hand it's showing us we are interconnected as never and have we ever seen before but on the other hand it's saying each one go home go home go inside go do your own work and this is the secret of understanding trauma is seeing the metaphors abundant seeing what is this trying to teach me so it's

29:21 trying to teach me that I needed to stop I needed to stop I needed to press the big pause then it's teaching me all my inauthentic ways of living for the other of living superficially of living dependent and addicted may need to be tossed aside all those old ways what can you toss what can you throw out what can you discard like a pair of socks into the garbage what change your what is in

29:54 the now change your now and you will change your tomorrow the tomorrow doesn't exist it is only the now coming into the now there is no moment in the future till it comes and when it comes it's no longer the future it's in the NAM so there is no future so the great pause the great purge and the great all and when you do this moment by moment by moment and you realize that you are walking between the old to the new then

30:28 the trauma that we are all going through becomes meaningful the trauma becomes integrated and this is the power of wisdom wisdom tells us don't deny the clone don't not cry don't not be in shock that's normal it's human but wisdom tells us take that and alkalis it take it and transform it if you don't then it will just stay like a rock in your chest so this is how you

31:00 need to evolve and you don't wait for your partner this is not about your partner this is not about your mother this is not about your child this is about you and me a commitment we are making on an individual level I am not waiting for anyone I'm not waiting for you I wouldn't go do this on my own because I understand that this needs to be done this is how you need to think so don't

31:23 wait for your partner don't wait for your mother you say to yourself I understand I need to do this you don't have to do it and most people are not going to do it the mainstream masses are not going to do anything they're already waiting to go back on the beaches and go back to the bars they're just waiting to go back because they're not making use of a crisis they're not understanding that a crisis has to be a turning point

31:50 they're resisting the nature of crisis so when you resist the nature of crisis it's okay that's their level of consciousness it's okay but let me tell you when you resist crisis and you don't integrate it and you don't evolve from crisis you are actually making yourself more vulnerable when the next crisis hits and the next crisis is going to hit so this is about raising immunity right the immunity means we have to enter the issue right we put the we actually put

32:19 the simulation of the flu right in the flu virus you put the simulation of the flu so you create the flu-like conditions so you create immunity in the same way with trauma you don't leave it you stay in it to create immunity you don't leave it to create immunity and there is a way to deal with trauma which is beautiful and growth inducing and evolving and it involves what I've told you this is how I help my my clients how

32:45 to evolve and understand and integrate trauma so I gave you a taste of that today no running away from the trauma only growing through the trauma going through the tunnel to the other side but the tunnel needs to be walked with deliberation with consciousness with awareness and you and I can do it together that's why I'm here every single day so we can walk together step-by-step in no woman's land or no man's land we are in the tunnel already

33:14 now we can run back but the point of the tunnel is to move forward so you and I together every day can take a step by step by step forward and the way we do it is we ask what is in the now not now what we ask what is in them now so I'm gonna read a verse from the down a chain which is a beautiful book that I read

33:46 when I need some ass and comfort so I believe I am on verse nine and if I'm not it doesn't matter so verse 9 of the DAO says fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill look at this fill your bowl to the brim it was still what this means is you have too much you're going to tip over excess is always going to tip you over fill your balls to the brim it will spill that

34:13 simple knowledge but it's metaphorical keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt what this means is if you have a knife that you so want sharp you would keep realizing it's going to blunt the more you want and crave perfection idealism ideology anything that is outcome-based you will soon find the opposite happening right success means you're a failure if you don't use the word success you won't have the word failure right

34:43 imagine if there was no word success there would not be any word failure and that would not be such a bad thing chase after money and security and your heart will never unclench the more you chase right the heart stays clenched the more you chase the more you will be chasing care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner care about people's approval and you put yourself in their prison do your work then step back the only path to serenity what this

35:14 means is what's in the now let go of rest what's in the now let it go do your work but and this moment-by-moment living is all we've ever had we've been fooled because we've forgotten because we've been distracted but moment by moment living is all we've ever had so when I go through this crisis and I to get a little nervous and my ego gets worried and I feel pain and I feel resistance I just come back to

35:44 meditation and I go what is in the now what is in the now what is in my now and then I begin to realize I'm breathing and then I begin to feel my heart and then I feel my stomach working working so hard for me and my whole body and I can exercise and I can move and I say to myself wow what is in my now is a lot and then I look around me and then more

36:08 around me and then my heart can open right so this is how you train your mind to be an awakened mind and you train your heart to be in a weakened heart so the moment is plenty the moment is abundant your now is full because you are here and you have to go down to that basic to the simplicity's of life and find your god or goddess in that in that all and when you do the all replicates

36:36 and it exponential eise's so I'm going to go teach meditation on another page the link is I'm going to just say it out loud for everyone but it is on my facebook its www.facebook.com okay so facebook.com forward slash groups okay because it's a group groups forward slash and the name of the group is get super powered forward slash so facebook.com forward slash groups forward slash get super powered forward

37:09 slash so somebody posted here and come learn to meditate with me so you can learn to live in the moment okay so we're not running away from this trauma we're going to integrate it and we're going to do something even better we're going to evolve we are together step by step