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0:00 [Music] Do you ever feel tempted to swoop in and just fix or end your kid's frustration? Look, I get it. I've been in those situations, too. You're watching your kid work hard at something. And then, I can't do it. You have to do it for me. But here's the thing. Resilience isn't built by exiting frustration. Resilience is built by learning how to tolerate frustration. And our kids can't learn to tolerate the feelings we don't tolerate in them. I want to share with you a tool you can use to help your kid build resilience, and it's called the learning space. The learning space is the idea that we all start at the point of not knowing how to do something yet. And another point kind of far away is the point where you figure something out. If you imagine that there's a space in between those two points, you can name it, the learning space. That's what learning is. It's always the space between not knowing yet and figuring something out. But here's what's important for you to know and for you to teach your kid. The learning space is a space where things feel frustrating.
1:26 Frustration isn't a sign you're doing something wrong. It's a sign you're in the learning space. And when kids know this, they're less likely to interpret their own frustration as a sign of failure. And they're actually more likely to interpret it as a sign they're doing something right. Learning. I want to show you how you can teach your kid to build resilience and sit in the learning space with Hot Wheels. Look at this track I need. I'm going to try to put a car through. Okay, >> my car.
1:59 >> Maybe. >> That's not what I wanted to happen. I wanted it to go around and around and around. It's not happening. Oh, >> maybe. >> It's so frustrating when you want something to happen, it doesn't happen yet. >> Yeah. >> Have you ever heard of something called the learning space? Okay. >> It happens for kids and adults. It's the space between not knowing how to do something yet and figuring it out.
2:34 >> And when you're in the learning space, you feel frustrated. How do you look when you're frustrated? What about you? >> I look like this >> and I look like this. [Music] >> And sometimes when we're frustrated, we think we should stop trying. But should we? >> No. We're in the learning space. Maybe we could try it again. Anyone have any ideas of what I could do differently this time? Let's try. Oh, I did it.
3:13 Oh, he should try again. [Music]
Summary
- Resilience is developed through tolerating frustration, not avoiding it.
- The "learning space" is defined as the area between not knowing and figuring something out.
- Experiencing frustration is a sign of being in the learning space, not a failure.
- Teaching children about the learning space helps them reinterpret frustration positively.
- Engaging in activities, like using Hot Wheels, can illustrate the learning space concept.
- Encouraging kids to try again after failure fosters persistence and problem-solving skills.
- Recognizing and discussing feelings of frustration can help normalize the learning process.