Mom Guilt Is Not What We Think It Is

0:00 How do you overcome mom guilt? >> I actually don't think we're talking about guilt here. I think this is a misunderstanding of what guilt is. To me, guilt is a feeling you have when you act out of alignment with your values. And in that way, it's a very important feeling. Like all of our feelings are important for information cuz it helps you have enough discomfort to reflect. What I hear all the time from moms is going out to dinner, my kids clinging, I feel guilty. So I'll say, "Okay, really, is it within your value system?" and only you would know this while you're a mother.

0:33 >> To see your friends some of the time. >> Mhm. >> 100% of moms say, "Yeah." So I say, "Okay, it's definitely a painful experience, but this is not guilt. This literally isn't guilt." I think as women especially, we've developed the tendency to scan our environment and see other people who are upset with us >> and we kind of do this. We're like, "You're feeling uncomfortable. I will take that feeling out of your body. >> I will take it into my body and I will call it guilt >> and I will change something I'm doing so you don't have to feel that way.

1:09 >> That's not guilt. That's actually emotional confusion.