Feeling Drained? This Might Be Why.

0:00 We become the things that we do, the things that we say, the things that we think. That in the end becomes the sum total of what our character is. Right? One of my favorite quotes is how we live each day is how we live our lives from Annie Dillard. Okay? So what you're if you are always moody and triggered and angry and mean to your kids, then I know that sounds really harsh, but it's certainly a realization that I had to have. You know, a lot of people are like, "No, it's not you. It's just the feeling. It's just the mood. It's just the inner child wound." Like this need to separate from those. And I was like, "Well, maybe it's my inner child wound."

0:39 But if that's coming out all day every day and that's the only thing people see from me is that I'm, you know, I feel like a victim and I feel sorry for myself and I'm I'm always offended and I'm I'm stressed out, then that's indistinguishable from just who I am at some point. So, I think it's more exhausting to be stuck in a behavior that doesn't serve us. It's more exhausting to be constantly angry, to be constantly depleted, to be constantly guilty and feeling ashamed of how we are as parents than it is to fake it. Like, put on your Mary Poppins hat, okay? Get out an umbrella, put on one of those skirts, slide down the banister, and pretend to be Mary Poppins for an afternoon. Now, is that exhausting? Are you putting on a performance? Are you putting on an act?

1:22 Sure, but you tell me when you feel more depleted. At the end of that day or at the end of a day where you're stomping around moody, frustrated, snapping, triggered, angry, unhappy. What's more exhausting?