DO WE ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE?

0:01 hi guys come on in book club number 30 and then it's the weekend so i don't know when i'll see you but i just wanted to squeeze in a book club before the weekend hi everyone come on in let's do book club number 30 we're talking about of course a radical awakening so you know people always ask me why did

0:32 i write this book and why did i feel so uh impassioned and why do i you know keep going at this through these book clubs and i always say you know we women this book is really geared for women we women are at their crux and core of of all intersections you know we are the mothers we are the caretakers even if we're not biological mothers we just are

1:02 the nurturers of the earth so if our women are devoid of power and connection and our women are not centered in their wholeness then everyone will suffer as we are we're suffering today not because just uh because of dominating exploitative uh toxic masculinity we are suffering

1:33 today because the woman has not awakened if we women awakened into our heart into our power and our masculinity of our feminine energy which is nurturing and caretaking with our masculine energy which care takes for ourselves and make sure that people are taken care of toxic masculinity will not be allowed to run rampant the reason why toxic masculinity rules

2:06 the earth right now is not because of evil men is because we women haven't woken up now i'm not blaming us women please don't go like oh she's victim bashing and she's not taking our women's side i'm so taking our women's side that if we women woke up to the power we have as individuals and as a collective we will not stay small and because we won't stay small the others won't be able to dominate and we

2:38 will come into an equilibrium and into an equanimity between both genders the reason why men can get away with what they get away with is not because men are getting away with what they're getting away with it's because they're just doing what they're doing we need to wake up and call the shots we need to call on each other we women need to consolidate so how do you wake up ultimately there's only one answer ultimately all roads lead to only one

3:09 place which is what this entire book really speaks to which is self-worth which is self knowledge self love that's it i know it sounds so cliched but let me tell you it is the hardest thing in the world to do what i'm saying because when you are grounded in self love self honor self self celebration and self uh worthiness you will not allow yourself to be damaged anymore yes you did but not

3:42 anymore somebody's asking how to handle jealousy when we experience jealousy from other women because we are so grounded in ourselves we have two choices we can either deal with it through neutrality meaning don't do anything about it it doesn't bother you because it has nothing to do with you it's jealousy from the other person or you simply uh can report back with compassion you go higher you know you see that the

4:13 person is insecure you see that the person is weak and you can become the greater one you don't have to though but you certainly don't have to get upset and feel threatened because you begin to understand that the other person is reacting from their false place the other person is reacting from their weak spot so how do we change our earth we change our earth when women rise into their power when women rise into their power

4:44 we we push men back into their lane and we train our sons and daughters to be in their lane and we train them how to deal with us but when we don't know ourselves when we are not connected to our deepest worth and our deepest celebration how can we be in a relationship with anybody else we can't because if we're not connected to our worth then we are in the relationship to find our worth if we're in the relationship to find our

5:14 worth then we are not authentic because we're using the relationship to bolster us we're using the identity of being in the relationship to give us validation to give us power so how do you do this how how how you have to start how do you start you take courses you you go on a quest you go on a journey you find a therapist you find a coach you read this book and other self have books that

5:45 that you read over and over again don't just read it one time and then the language begins to seep in and it goes into your awareness so on on and off shoot guys last night i put all my self-help courses on a 50 discount sale with the code save 50 save50 go to my website go to courses i have courses on conscious growth i have two

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6:46 them and gift them i bought you can buy bundles and then i have conscious cleanse um there lots of courses so if you go to my course page everything is 50 off um so when somebody in the world somebody's asking this question stalls your progress because of their jealousy again you have two choices you can either be neutral and continue on or you can take

7:18 action now what kind of action do you take you can take two kinds of action action that's advocacy for yourself or advocacy for her so advocacy for yourself you have to go and shine brighter you have to go to your boss and talk about it you have to advocate for yourself or you advocate for the other saying okay she's just you know go up to her and say hey i see that you and i are having

7:41 issues let's talk i don't know what the situation is but what i'm trying to say is that you can always do something about it there's always a choice they're always going to be quote-unquote jealous people don't think it's only happening to you there's jealousy all the time there is betrayal all the time you know when when i was younger and people used to betray me i used to have a woe is me you know it's only happening to me

8:09 and then i realized hey it will keep happening to you until you learn better but it will still happen even if you're really smart people will keep betraying you you know somebody will steal your lipstick or somebody will steal two thousand dollars or fifteen thousand dollar it doesn't matter they will keep doing what they do because the world is full of unconscious scary scary as f people okay you cannot avoid that you're here on earth there will be scary people

8:37 there will be jealous people there will be mean people the point is not that you keep finding p finding a little safe bubble the point is that you accept this is the way of the earth this is the way of human nature and then you you look at your choices what are my choices the answer is not to seclude yourself so you never experience the pain of human unconsciousness human unconsciousness is everywhere guys the answer is to know that you have

9:07 choices that you have choices in what you do you have choices in how you react you have choices in where you go next so the answer is not in hiding or being upset with other people the answer is only in what choices you have that you can do that's the only only way to do it um so your power your

9:38 inherent inner worth is going to determine the experience of your relationships it's not going to determine the relationship you may always attract shitty people but your worth your your inner worth will reflect um the experience of your relationship do you understand what i'm saying people are always going to be people

10:08 shitty people amazing people crappy people gorgeous people lovely people crappy people it's all ugly people it's always going to be there ugly meaning in spirit people are always going to come to you at different points on their continuum of consciousness it is not about what kind of person you attract or who you attract it's how you experience the relationship that's where your consciousness comes into play

10:39 so with somebody who's crappy ugly in spirit and an your experience is going to immediately give you red flags and you're immediately going to make choices because you are empowered to listen to your inner voice do you understand so everything depends on your inner state of consciousness that's what this book is about it's the radical part of your awakening is that there is no one to blame there is no one on the outside it is your consciousness

11:10 that dictates the level of your experience the quality of your experience and you always have a choice how you experience an experience and that is determined by your level of consciousness if you raise your level of consciousness and what does that mean again what does it mean to raise your level of consciousness it means to be deeply connected

11:40 to your inner voice where your relationship to your own voice trumps your religion your education your family your mother your father your children your lover your culture your relationship to your own voice is idiosyncratic it is unique it is clear and it is independent of anyone on the outside that is what it means to have a high level of

12:10 consciousness when you can hear yourself over the din of everyone else that is the first part to consciousness and the second part to consciousness is when you realize that your attachments are all illusions none of your attachments are who you are you are we are essence we are beyond our attachments we are above our attachments

12:40 our attachments are false identifications you know now there's a big trend about you know call me they them and you know so coming from a spiritual perspective it is completely one more thing to identify with spirituality is all about not identifying call me anything you want it's not who i am

13:11 so i understand what people are trying to do on the material level on the psychological level but on the spiritual level it does it doesn't matter you know you can call me a baboon gorilla a tree a parrot actually all of those are better than me you know all of that is better than me when you are upset like don't call me that don't call me jewish i am not jewish i am catholic you're just an idiot because you're just

13:38 identified with that and trying to be better than the other and neither are true they're all just illusions all labels yes so we need to understand that who we are is beyond identification beyond labels and when you get to that place which you can only get to through meditation there is no other way okay there is no other way i'm telling you i'm telling you when you get to that place that you are

14:08 beyond identifications then you begin to live on a plane beyond and above the matrix so then when people are you're like oh another hello and then you you check in with yourself am i being an right you're always honest because you don't need to pretend like you're in a fabulous relationship you don't need to pretend that you're fabulous you're okay

14:40 because these are not important anyway what people think of you in this moment and what you think of yourself in this moment is not even relevant who cares you're gonna die i'm gonna die we get so twisted out of shape what did you call me what did you say how dare you say that i am not that i am this no you are nothing okay you are nothing your dust dust not even dust dust is too too heavy you are like completely

15:10 like the tail of the dust speck okay if we understood how irrelevant we are we would shut the hell up and just enjoy the present moment but because we think we are all that because we have grown up in this world that has believed that the human is on the top of the world we literally think we are so so so so so special and we're not special people to the universe we are like not even the

15:40 not even a particle on an end okay not even a particle on a grain of sand but because religion and the current era because we're so smart has told us that we're so smart we think we're so smart we're not smart at all we're actually completely messed up if you look at the earth we have destroyed the earth our generation people who are 40s and above not the millennials that

16:11 you're blaming not these entitled brats that we're raising it's not their fault they're entitled who created uber eats on their app our generation who created the damn iphone our generation so we are ruining our earth because we think we're so smart the minute we become wise we realize how dumb we are and we stop this nonsense and each person begins to say no more no more no more no more anyway

16:43 that's what i'm trying to do is tell you no more from this book a radical awakening it is a book to show you all the you've believed in that you need to now say no more to and at the core of it all is the lie that you are not worthy is the lie that you think you belong to another or that you should belong to another or that you are the others you are your child's mother

17:11 you are your parents daughter you are your lover's wife or husband all wrong you are that only in the material form based world to just say your true essence is none of that your true essence is none of that your true essence is just energy you want to call it essence being so allow people to be and walk away allow yourself to make choices don't resist and ask why are you an no you go

17:41 hello now i have choices do i want to talk to an no so who's asking you to stay talking oh but it's my mom okay who cares what is their level of consciousness don't go by the role go by the level of consciousness if the level of consciousness is not one where you are loving yourself why are you still there right you're still there because you are not in touch with your own self-love this is why consciousness is

18:11 deeply connected to self-worth and self-love so this book is all about putting yourself first because if you don't put yourself first you're not authentic you're just using the relationship to give you validation and worth this book is about giving yourself permission to know how culture is lying to you it's giving you permission to say no more to all the aspects in your life that you don't want but it's not about telling the other to

18:43 go away it's about picking yourself up and moving away you always have choices if you're sitting right now in your little family or big family in your little sorry self thinking i don't have choices she has choices because she's indian whatever the hell you've decided about me or your neighbor or your best friend thinking that they have choices that's a lie when i had difficult choices to make and i didn't want to make my choices

19:13 i also was like no one understands me my choices are so much more difficult that was a lie they weren't more difficult they were just choices that i did not want to make and because i didn't want to make it i acted like my choices were extra difficult like the universe had conspired to be against this very special girl called shefali all i'm not special there's no such thing as the universe conspiring to be against

19:44 anybody or for anybody the universe is for the universe it's not for the ants the body parts of ants that we are sorry to tell you the universe is for the universe we are in the universe's place so we better bow down to the universe not expect the universe to bow down to us so we are here to understand that there is no one out there that is evil we always have a choice if we don't have a choice it's because

20:13 we don't want to have a choice we want to stay asleep i promise you your choice is staring at you right in the face but you don't want to take the choice because the choice may mean being alone a little bit the choice may mean not having as much money and comfort the choice may mean losing your reputation a little bit therefore you're going to act like there's no choice no the choice is always always staring at you remember

20:44 what i'm saying at least be honest with yourself there's always a choice there's always a way you just don't like the choice you just don't like the way so say you your choice is to use this phone okay i have two phones so use this phone because this phone is not working properly so you tell me use this phone and i keep saying oh i can't use this phone there's no choice i'm like no you can use this phone no i

21:13 can't and then i discover with for myself oh the reason i don't want to use this phone is because it has poor quality i don't like it as much ah so you did have a choice you just didn't like the choice okay so we are infinitely powerful really in our own little lives to create any experience we like we just have to do our own work no one is going to tell us how to think about ourselves how to love

21:43 ourselves after the age of seven okay it's our our business after this so i tell people okay from 7 to 21 i'll let you complain about your parents but after 21 okay 28 that's it i don't i really don't allow people to complain too much about their parents because we have to do the work ourselves we have to do the work for ourselves so listen to this book club if you missed it talking about a radical awakening and

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