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0:00 My daughter's first is not mama or dii. But that's fine. I'm a her mother and nobody needs to say that to me. Do we as working women get judged or have you been judged saying she won't show up? Yeah. Do you get labeled? Yeah. And I don't I I really feel like maybe I'm just giving people the benefit of doubt and I don't think they mean sometimes people just you know they just say things without even realizing like you know does your child run to your nanny more than they run to you? Do they say that too? Yeah. Many this I've heard many and the truth is that yes my my younger daughter till she was 2 years old was definitely more attached to her nanny than she was to me. It's the truth. But like I said, because now when I look back, like I told you right at the start, because I was brought up with so much love and my assurance on myself other than wait and I want to keep those two things very separate is so much that I was like that's fine. I'm the mother.
0:59 No one's going to take that away from me. You saying that she runs to the nanny or me seeing that she runs to the nanny. You know how typically a child will fall and their first word would be mama. My daughter's first was not mama. It was Didi. Yeah. But that's fine. I'm a her mother and nobody needs to say that to me. I have nothing to prove to anybody. She's my kid and our connection is our connection. It's very personal for her and me.
Summary
- Working mothers often face judgment about their availability and parenting choices.
- Comments about a child's attachment to caregivers can be hurtful but are often unintentional.
- The speaker's daughter’s first word was not "mama," which highlights societal expectations around motherhood.
- The speaker maintains a strong sense of identity as a mother, regardless of external opinions.
- Personal connections with children are unique and should not be compared to others.
- The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and confidence in parenting.