How To Raise A Confident Child

0:00 so so many parents want to help their children raise their self-esteem if you want to help your children raise their self-esteem you need to first help them understand what their self is who their self is so self-awareness self-knowledge self celebration is the core of raising self-esteem if the child is disconnected to who it is they are they're not going to have self esteem so when we teach our children that they need to honor and

0:32 understand and recognize their own self as being a free spirit then they begin to feel confident in who it is they are but instead what we do typically in today's culture is that we teach our children to be anything other than who it is they are we teach them to follow indicators on the outside we teach them that they are their grade we teach them that they are a superficial standard of beauty we teach them that they are their

0:57 social group we teach them that they are the number of likes they get on social media so when we do that we teach them that their self-esteem is then not predicated on a deep inner knowledge but is predicated on all these things on the outside the grades the beauty the social status the belonging to a peer group to how they succeed in life now this is the fundamental ill when we teach our children that who it

1:26 is they are is dependent on something and I always tell parents that self-esteem is something that comes from within if we want to raise our children's self-esteem we need to understand that we need to raise them in their self-awareness then when they are firmly planted in an honoring of who which is they are then naturally they're going to esteem themselves the greatest esteem they need to have is for themselves but if they don't have a

1:58 sense of self and if they don't have an inner connectivity how can they steep themselves if we teach them that the esteem depends on whether some boyfriend likes them or if some teacher validates them or if some weighing scale tells them that they are worthy then their sense of inner selves will constantly fluctuate dependent on these external markers this is a disservice we do to our children and it really comes from our own lack of self-esteem so when we

2:27 understand that to raise self-esteem to help the child be celebrating off that in herself then we shifted the child's focus from the to the inside it's no longer about whether people love them validate them or proof of them it's about whether they can validate approve this friend and honor their own image

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