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0:00 if money can buy everything for her why can't money buy her daughter some friends the one thing I can proudly say about my girls is their ability to hold everybody their ability to be happy where they are they're with their parents their family the joy that they get in everything that they do and it's been good so far I don't know how far it's gonna go but as I speak they're 14 and 10 and it just
0:27 feels all right after the moment and I know kids can be unpredictable but let me share a story and this one kind of give me a little nod in my stomach and I hope this story needs to be shared not only because of how I felt but it just made me sit back reflect and that's exactly what I want to share with you guys today there's no script there's no um there's there's really no plan but to
0:56 really share with you an incident that recently happened with my daughter when she went down to play in the building with her few friends and really I'm not the kind of parent who hovers around her and her friends and takes sides and you know when they're fighting or say okay you've got to do this or you've got to do this because I just feel like life is you know the best teacher and and it's the best playground and you
1:20 fall and you stumble and you kind of pick yourself up and and you know you kind of learn the rules of the game as you progress and as you fall but from time to time I reassure them of course in my own way that their parents my husband and I are always going to be on their side and if you've heard um you know a recent talking Tuesday episode on Instagram and yes if you didn't know that we post a new episode
1:46 every single Tuesday at 12 noon if you just want to look a couple of them up you can use the hashtag ksb token Tuesday and of course you would also know that we spoke about raising narcissistic kids and saying no and you know and and saying no sometimes and not giving in is absolutely okay because they need to hear that no from people they love as well um so just like I said I'm not sure if
2:15 you've heard that episode and and the previous episodes that like I keep saying a zillion times and I won't say it again my younger daughter is my moral companies and I'm just so so proud of her I love that she chooses not to be mean and hurtful and I'm going to share an incident that recently I got it Monday so my daughter was playing down with her friends in the building and a mom came up and over and started talking
2:36 to all of them because they were all playing together as friends in that conversation she hinted that oh we stay in a better building oh we tried this car oh my daughter Goes to School in the car over the school bus and you know um you know school bus is actually for the Lesser models and of course holidays can never be in India they've got to be you know somewhere where you actually need to use your passport and I'm just
3:04 so happy that my daughter didn't care much for it or should I say rather she was she was quite indifferent to it towards the end of it after a whole 15 minutes she was very tempted to speak out saying Auntie maybe that's why your daughter has fewer friends but she didn't she didn't not because she didn't have all of that but because she didn't see the need to justify herself she thought someone else's pettiness does not need her attention and this
3:32 podcast isn't really about Iran but a very serious issue of a generation of parents that believe all of these things will buy the children happiness and that's the conversation we need to start it's not about how great my daughter is or how well brought up she is um or how children of course can be funny mean nasty good you know they all have their reasons for what they're doing why they're doing and I don't believe we have mean kids but we we
4:00 definitely can be more mindful as parents so do we come across as a generations of parents who believe that happiness really rests in materialistic things and and that's the question that I really dealt with while I was thinking about the conversation that my daughter had a kids don't need to choose their friends faces the cars that they drive the clothes they wear the homes they live in when did that really become a criteria for friendship you know going
4:24 back to krishna's Tears by their logic Krishna and sudama would should have never been friends and you must listen to this episode number 180 for on you know should I really go ahead and choose my child's friends because that one has obviously broken all records and continues to be our chart topper I understand that we want to protect our kids but there is a difference in protecting them and crippling them the difference in giving them all the
4:48 luxuries of the world but forgetting to teach them basic manners I would never blame the child or the parent I would just blame it on that you know demons that they're fighting or their relationship with money which is just so insecure this shows me that truly they believe that money will get their kids more friends throwing a lavish birthday party will get their kids more friends this is not what we want to teach our kids do we when I look back at my
5:14 childhood the friends I had I don't remember you know the size of their homes or where they live but the incredible food that their mom served as the Mad sleepovers that we had the warmth and safety of their house and the trust we had in their parents to help us out in all crazy situations to come pick us up at the drop of a hat and we knew that we could just walk into their homes anytime and ask for just about anything
5:42 we knew that they were our Guardians and and they were really Guardians not only in the physical sense but guardians of our wild stories and there was something wrong they would read it on our face that evening as I put my ten-year-old to bed she asked me mom why was that Auntie so mean if money can buy everything for her why can't money buy her daughter some friends she was a remark I have friends who are probably 100 times more
6:10 money than her don't live in apartments but live in you know buildings um but they've never showed off like this I'm never ever going to be like that show of Auntie but a good auntie who makes people feel good about themselves makes them feel living Fuller about themselves that night I actually kept dreaming as I put myself to bed as well because I secretly felt a sense of gratitude in this situation because through this experience she learned who
6:41 she doesn't want to be and I'm I'm just really really glad that she chose well foreign
Summary
- The speaker's daughters are happy and content, valuing family and experiences over material possessions.
- A recent interaction with another parent revealed a focus on wealth and status, which the speaker's daughter handled with grace.
- The speaker believes that life experiences are the best teachers for children, rather than parental intervention in conflicts.
- The podcast discusses the dangers of raising children who equate happiness with material wealth.
- The speaker reflects on her own childhood friendships, which were based on warmth and shared experiences rather than status.
- The incident prompted her daughter to question why money couldn't buy friendship, leading to a deeper understanding of values.
- The speaker expresses gratitude for the lesson learned, as it helped her daughter clarify the type of person she wants to be.