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0:00 Sometimes ask asking for something and getting it is in fact a greater a greater value than not having to then it just comes naturally not having to ask. It's like, wow, you were even willing, right, to be told what to do, [laughter] to be to be asked for something, to be to be to be controlled on some level, right? Not not to put it into negative a term, but do you know what I'm saying? Like, there's something to showing up with that willingness to, okay, yes, like, tell me how to please you. I I would like to please you. Okay, there's something to that. There's something romantic about that as well. I know we've been drumed into our minds that like Hollywood uh you know romcoms where like he's supposed to just guess or it's supposed to just happen by coincidence or he's supposed to just always know the perfect thing to say at the right time or you know that kind of fantasy of mind readading and of compatibility and soulmates and it should all just click into place. But there's something romantic about a story of a woman who really knows what she wants, who's really asking for it and a man who's willing to give it to her, who's showing up every day to say, "Here, I'm here to please you." I guess I'm a participant. There's something about that, too.
Summary
- Asking for what you want can be more valuable than having it come naturally.
- There is a romantic aspect to being willing to please and be pleased in a relationship.
- Hollywood often promotes unrealistic expectations of mind-reading and perfect compatibility.
- A relationship thrives when both partners actively communicate their needs and desires.
- The narrative of a woman knowing what she wants and a man willing to fulfill those desires is portrayed as ideal.
- Mutual participation and effort are essential for a fulfilling romantic connection.