Why I am REFUSING to teach my children BLIND RESPECT? #positiveparenting #healthyparenting

0:00 Hi parents. Stop teaching your children to blindly respect adults. It's dangerous because it might teach your child that if an uncle makes a weird comment, they have to stay quiet because he's elder. Some teacher might hit them. They might not complain because respect grandma might be force feeding till they vomit. They might smile and say thank you. We think we're actually teaching respect. We are actually teaching obedience. A parent told me her 8 year old didn't mention that a tuition teacher was hitting children.

0:29 You know why? Because you respect teacher. So when teacher hit child thought this is normal, I shouldn't complain. So here's what we need to teach our children. Respect elders. Be polite to elders, but you don't have to obey them if something feels wrong to you. Your children need to know that. Respect equal to being kind. But obedience equal to doing what they say even when it hurts. And these are not the same thing. Teach your child you can say no to hugs even from a relative.

0:58 If something feels wrong in your body, you listen to that, not to the adult telling you. This is consent based education. This is teaching children your feelings are data and you trust them. I am not raising a disrespectful child. I am raising a child who knows the difference between respect and blind obedience. A child who can be kind to elders and trust their own instincts because one day that instinct might receive them.