When you are just so out of gas CAN'T do Special Time

0:00 some good dads I'm Patti wiffler I'm the founder and the program director at Hanahan parenting and I thought today been talking about special time is it such a powerful tool for building connection between parent and child and it really is the tool that you lead with you know when your child is off track and having a difficult day or a difficult month it's the tool you lead

0:30 with in order to get to know your child better it's the tool you lead with when you've kind of when you don't understand why your child is behaving the way they're behaving it just has so many so many uses it's also the tool you lead with when you feel like you've lost your love for your child you can't find it in there anymore that's like giving special time can help refresh the relationship and/or show you where you need to work

0:59 on things because this is what they want to do and it irritates the heck out of you so it's it's also a really good tool to help you notice where the obstacles are to really enjoying your child it's like you know a special time points that up because children often will choose the thing you have the hardest time paying attention to to do in special time because they really want that attention right on that on that behavior

1:29 on that activity and so in a way it's kind of like you know a spade digging into hard grounds and when you give your child special time and and that will show you the ways that you need to kind of broaden your tolerance