Transcript
0:00 So when do you compliment your child? Invariably, if you think about it, you end up doing it when he or she has put a lot of effort, has dressed up for a family event or going out to a party or something like that. So while it's important for us to complement how they look when they put in effort, it is equally important for us to compliment them in their authentic look. But how do you differentiate between these compliments?
0:26 So here's what I do. So when they're just doing nothing at home, doing homework or just going to school, I would say things like, you're looking so smart, so confident, your hair and skin are looking so healthy, or you're looking so authentic today, you're looking really fresh, you're looking so relaxed. So those are the kind of compliments I would give a child when he or she is not specially dressed. But on the other hand, when they are, you can use things like you're looking so fancy or someone's really dressed up today, or wow, you've accessorized so well.
1:02 So you kind of see the difference in the way the compliments are. But it reinforces the fact that even without putting in effort, I am still beautiful as a child in my parents size. That's important.
Summary
- Compliments should vary based on the child's effort and situation.
- Praise their authentic look with comments like "you look so smart" or "you're looking really fresh."
- Acknowledge their effort with compliments like "you look so fancy" or "wow, you've accessorized well."
- Reinforcing beauty in both casual and dressed-up states helps children feel valued.
- It's important for children to know they are appreciated for who they are, not just how they look.