Transcript
0:00 Here's one thing parents say out of love, which is slowly teaching their child not to trust themselves. Last week, a mom told me, I correct him all the time so he learns faster. And I get it, because most of us grew the same way. No, not like that. You're doing it wrong. Here, let me do it. I know it felt like love, and it was. But this is what research shows. When children get corrected again and again, they don't become more confident.
0:24 They get more scared to try. They stop exploring. They start looking at you before they do anything, waiting for your nod, waiting to see if it's okay. And that's not confidence. That's a child who learned my ideas may be wrong. And it doesn't start at school. It starts at home, in everyday moments with the people they love the most. So what's the fix? Next time your child does something their own way instead of that's wrong, try these words.
0:50 Show me. That's it. Those two words tell your child that your thinking matters. Your way is worth trying. So tell me honestly, when your child does it differently, is your first move to correct them or to get more curious and ask them to show it to you?
Summary
- Constant correction can instill fear in children, making them hesitant to try new things.
- Children may begin to seek approval before acting, indicating a lack of confidence.
- The issue begins at home, in everyday interactions with parents.
- Encouraging children to show their methods instead of correcting them promotes self-trust.
- Using phrases like "Show me" validates a child's thinking and encourages exploration.
- Parents should reflect on their instinct to correct versus their willingness to be curious about their child's approach.