Transcript
0:00 You know, so many of us were raised with a legacy that we're not good enough or we're too much. So whenever we enter a situation or a relationship or in our careers where something is not working out, we immediately believe subconsciously it must be us. So we begin to tweak who we are. We begin to curate who we are. Uh maybe I'll be a little bit more this or a little bit more that or I'll change my hairstyle or I'll lose 10 pounds or I'll speak like this or I won't speak enough. We constantly work on fixing our damaged self. Little do we realize and this happened to me in my life. I was tweaking and curating and proddding and fixing so much that I was missing the plot. And little did I realize that oh my goodness, it's not that I was too much or that I was broken. I was in the wrong rooms. I was in the wrong relationships. I wasn't supposed to be there. But it never occurred to me that maybe I should just take myself out of this situation. Maybe I should just move. Maybe I should just find another job. That never occurred to me because I was so filled with this ideation, with this ideology that there's something wrong with me. So I need to keep fixing me. And as long as I stayed stuck in that spiral, nothing shifted. It was a gamechanging moment. And I hope it is for you when I realized that I was out of alignment. I was not meant to be in that room. I was not meant to sit at that table. I was not meant to be in that relationship. So, think about it.
1:31 The next time you're feeling like something is off, that things are not working out, instead of constantly tweaking and fixing yourself, ask yourself, am I supposed to even be here?
Summary
- Many people feel they are not good enough or are "too much," leading to self-doubt.
- Individuals often try to change aspects of themselves to fit into situations or relationships.
- The speaker shares a personal realization that they were in the wrong environments rather than being inherently flawed.
- Constantly tweaking oneself can lead to missing the bigger picture of alignment with the right people and places.
- A pivotal moment occurs when one recognizes that they are out of alignment with their surroundings.
- Instead of self-fixing, it's crucial to assess whether one truly belongs in a given situation.
- The speaker encourages self-reflection when feeling off, suggesting questioning one's presence in that environment.