Transcript
0:00 A lot of women write to me, "It's not fair. Why do I have to breastfeed? I feel resentful of, you know, my biology, of the women's body, of of the fact that men just walk around and don't even have to think about it and their body doesn't change and they don't have to leak and they don't they're not sore and all this stuff." And I say to myself, okay, if I could if I could if I could take a pill or, you know, press a button and he could breastfeed instead of me, would I?
0:24 Now, this is a useful thought exercise to do for yourself. If you could switch roles with him, if you could take on the financial burden, if you could do his job and he does your job, if he could become the primary parent that the kids run to when they're hurt or wake up in the middle of the night, would you switch with him? And again, you might answer this question differently, but for me, when I was honest with myself, I was like, "No, I actually want to be doing this. I want to be the one who mostly wakes up at night. Sometimes I need to tell, but mostly I want to be the one who answers that call. I want to breastfeed. I know I could bottle feed.
1:00 I know I could, right? But I would like to personally do this. And so I had to be honest about the fact that these were choices that I'm making. And it's no good being a full-g grown adult making choices and then complaining about them, right? I'm just reserving the rights. I'm putting it in my back pocket so I can blame you for it
Summary
- Many women express frustration about the burdens of breastfeeding and motherhood.
- The speaker suggests a thought exercise: would you switch roles with your partner?
- She reflects on her own feelings, admitting she prefers to take on the primary caregiving role.
- The importance of recognizing and owning personal choices is highlighted.
- Blaming others for one's choices is discouraged; accountability is emphasized.
- The discussion encourages women to embrace their roles rather than resent them.