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0:00 [Music] hang out there with a question that we didn't get to though in part one and that is as a parent when do I decide to have these conversations like what's the Thought around the right time and the right space to invite my child into a
0:31 conversation do you have thoughts about that I think timing and environment play a major role in the effective of us actually trying to have hard conversations yeah our our disposition and our heart space and what we bring into the room it plays a major part we talked about that last time but I think it where we have this conversation is so important is out on the front lawn tossing a baseball or driv in the car to
1:00 Dairy Queen to get an ice cream or pup cup for the dog like is that is that the right environment um is sitting on the end of the bed and not looking eye to eye with our kid but just sitting there and just being at peace while they're laying on their bed crying in their pillow is that the right place to have the conversation I think you have to experiment you have to know your kid and what they need in
1:25 that moment um and sometimes that's difficult to do but I I think that I think that trying to find the right environment and the right time not letting not finding the right environment or the right time paralyze you but but finding that in the right time to have the right conversation um is super super important and so uh I think that sometimes when we're not sitting at the dinner table looking at each other face to face I think
1:52 oftentimes uh that's the wrong environment to have the conversation in but I think finding that right environment for you and for your kid is really important yeah and even with your body like most of us are you know bigger than our kids you know they do a lot of times surpass us as they get older but just remembering that like fight flight response in our child if we're having a conversation with our kid and we're standing over them or our voices louder
2:16 than them Their little bodies are going to feel threatened and that's going to take away the opportunity to have that really sweet intentional teaching you know opportunity and asking questions and them feeling safe answering um the questions another sweet thing um in play therapy the ball when kids play with the ball it represents relationship and so um a really cool thing when you're playing catch with your kid is what you're actually communicating to your child is like here's this thing
2:46 it's our relationship or whatever you know that ball and I'm going to throw it to you I'm throwing it to you and you get to decide what you're going to do with it and most the time right the kid tries to catch it so they catch it and then you're looking at them and you're going hey I'm here like I'm here on on the other side I've got eyes here I've got eyes on you and I'm ready to catch
3:02 whatever you throw at me you know I got it so that's a really beautiful physical representation of what we want with our kids in having you know the hard conversations and asking the question as I'm here I'm available my eyes are on you and I'm gonna I'm Gonna Catch whatever you throw my way and then I'm gonna I'm gonna take and I'm gonna throw something back at you and then you get to receive it and so I think sometimes
3:25 when you're playing catch and you're having conversations it's a really it can be a really cool thing because your body's actually experiencing what you're wanting you know to have with your kid in that in those moments yeah I I love that I I remember as my kids started getting you know older maybe seven eight even is when I started it it was hey I want to talk about this thing so in a couple hours can we meet by the fireplace grab
3:53 your favorite blanket and we would like snuggle up not necessarily together depending on the conversation yeah you know but we'd have our blankets and we'd by be by the fire and that was a good space I would also just add to this you want to choose a time when your child's energy level is at a place where they can receive the conversation that the mood in the house has been lighthearted for some time yeah
4:24 um and so that you're really picking a time where you know your child's at their best to be able to have a good conversation with you [Music]
Summary
- Timing and environment are crucial for effective conversations with children.
- Casual settings (like playing catch or driving) can create a relaxed atmosphere for discussion.
- Parents should be mindful of their body language and tone to avoid intimidating their children.
- Engaging in play can symbolize the relationship and help facilitate communication.
- Choose moments when the child's energy is high and the mood is positive for better receptiveness.
- Experimenting with different environments can help identify what works best for each child.
- Creating a cozy space, like by a fireplace with blankets, can enhance comfort during serious talks.