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0:00 what is the most triggering thing that my kids do the thing that really sets my nerves on edge gets me grating my teeth and makes me super mad the thing that grinds on me it's being disrespectful when they sound entitled and braty when they roll their eyes when they're sarcastic when they slam doors or walk out in the middle of conversations when they talk back to me in rude ways I find that really triggering and the thing is

0:28 that mainstream parent seems to have a little bit just lifted up their hands at this issue and said we've got nothing I've read hundreds literally of parenting books and they have so much beautiful wisdom to them but the problem with the movements like conscious gentle respectful parenting is that as beautiful as they are they simply don't give us tools of what to do when our child doesn't mirror back everything that we're modeling to them see you can

0:55 model respect to your child all day long but there are still going to be those cases when parent is mature and calm and kind and talking in a respectful way and the child slams that back in their face just throws it all B at them when the child is rude obnoxious entitled and really disrespectful to that Oho respectful parent and then what do we do see I don't know about you but I feel a real Mission a real sense of urgency to

1:23 raise kids who are respectful to build a society that is respectful to teach my kids that there are certain red lines that we don't cross in a conversation and I don't know what to do when the road of modeling comes to an end and then there's still this respect happening how do we actually teach our children to be respectful to us that's what I'm going to explore in today's video hi welcome back I'm AEL this is

1:48 higham and we are here on a mission to help you to build a strong family culture to raise your children with the values that you really believe in and stand behind to build a home that is strong and stable and built on lasting bonds and meaningful values I want to help you to love parenting to feel that you're empowered confident that you know what you're doing that you're not just being swept up by the trends and that

2:10 you're not just giving up on yourself or on your children because I believe that family is the most important project of our lifetime that raising kids is a privilege and a mission that we need all the help we can get the tools the skills the practice the inspiration to do it well to feel like we are mastering this now I can't promise you any particular outcomes with your particular children but I can promise you in-depth meaningful conversations honest guidance

2:37 evidence-based ideas and mindset shifts that are going to completely change the way that you look at yourself as the CEO and founder of your family as a leader as someone who is building not only your family culture but culture at large and I think you know that's an incredible job that's an important job and I salute you and I join you as a mother of five I'm on this journey myself and one of the things that I want to help us to

3:01 break down is who do we have to be in order to do that well what kind of persona do we have to embody how do we have to grow ourselves develop our skills and address and reframe our mindsets so that we can raise our kids and Usher in a fantastic future for them so first I'm going to steal man the let's call it the gentle parenting movements argument with number one which I'm going to stay with them here is

3:25 respect your child I agree I think modeling is a huge part of parenting and I think if we're disrespectful if we're dismissive if we are corrosive to the relationship if we talk down to them if we snub them if we insult them if we're rude if we walk out in the middle of a conversation if we raise our voice if we call names if we shame and blame and guilt them all the time then they're probably going to copy those behaviors

3:50 that's the atmosphere we're creating in our home that's the rules that we're setting this is how it's done this is how adults discuss things and talk to people that they love and obviously our children are going to copy that we're all kind of monkey see monkey do people we have mirror neurons in our brains and our children are emulating us every step of the way so it's true that if you are disrespectful that's going to be

4:12 something that your child learns really quickly so learning to moderate your language to manage yourself and I'm going to talk more about this in the last point it's a really tough one but it's an important point for you to master if you want to be a great leader for your kid and really command the respect but yes the first thing is to be respectful to our kids and what that means is that we're going to be mindful

4:34 and be intentional and deliberate about the way that we speak to them now not robotic not superscripted not unnatural you're allowed to feel frustration and anger and disappointment in them you are allowed to tell them that they are to blame or guilty or should feel ashamed about certain things all of that is fine in my opinion but the way that we do that needs to be through a respectful discourse we need to hold ourselves to a

4:59 stand that we're not using curse words that we're not using insults that we're not mimicking or using sarcasm that we're not rolling our eyes or turning our backs or walking away that we're not putting them down as people as individuals but rather specifically critiquing the behaviors and the choices that they've made that we're treating them with respect the trouble is that I feel that the mainstream parenting movement kind of stops there and they don't actually give us the TOs to

5:24 continue from there because that's often simply not going to be enough but here at high found we're going to continue we're going to drill down deeper into what actually creates respect from our children and it's actually quite a long and hard and tenuous road to go down because you do really need to work at it but before I reveal step number two let's talk about why it's so important why would we want our children to respect us well I want to remind you

5:49 that you as the parent are basically a proxy a practicing ground for Society at large whatever you teach your children how they should treat you how they should show up to to their day how they should treat your home your time your money that's what they're learning about the World At Large this is where they grow up and where they actually practice all the skills and develop all of the mindsets and all of the belief systems

6:13 that are going to set them up for their life and so if you allow them to disrespect you to walk all over you to really treat you badly then they're learning that that's acceptable that that is how people treat each other I treated my mom that way and nothing happened right and so we actually owe it to society to their future girlfriends and boyfriends and bosses and colleagues to everyone to teach our children to be respectful and we owe it to them because

6:41 people who know how to be respectful to others get on pretty well in life you know people want to Mentor them people want to marry them people want to hire them people want to be in their company because they're Pleasant to be around they're going to get further with these skills so it's a win-win we're going to win right now in childhood raising kids who know how to be respectful CU it's much less stressful to raise respectful

7:03 children it's much less embarrassing it's much more rewarding and pleasant for us as parents but then they're going to win in the future as they gain Traction in the projects and opportunities that arise in their lives and Society is going to win because we all want respectful people around us respectful people by the way doesn't mean pushovers doesn't mean that they don't know how to set boundaries and doesn't mean that they don't know how to speak truth to power or to stand up to

7:29 negative Authority so this is a really important point and if you're multitasking come back to me CU I want you to really tattoo this one on your forehead okay men people feel like well I prefer my child as disrespectful to Authority because that at least means that they can stand up that they can say no right that they're not going to be taken advantage of but here's the thing our children must learn to differentiate between positive Authority and negative

7:54 Authority you and I probably share the fact that we want to raise children who would stand up to tyrannical powers to Intimidators and Bullies right we would want them to be able to have the backbone to stand up to and to be disrespectful to people with bad influences to people with bad ideas to people who are behaving badly however that's not the same as being disrespectful to your teacher or to your parents provided your teacher and your

8:20 parents want the best for you and are treating you well if you are treating your children well but you are allowing them to treat you badly because you want them to be able to stand up to Authority you're missing a really key differentiator I want to teach my children that they can be disrespectful and they can break the rules when those rules are bad rules are evil rules right they can disrespect evil authorities if someone's telling them to do something

8:46 that is wrong they should stand up to them however they should respect positive authorities they should respect authorities that are trying to protect them are trying to take care of them are trying to usher in education and wellbeing and health Etc like their parents like their teachers like the police these are authorities that they need to respect and listen to because that is how Society is civilized and ordered so yes your Rebellion against evil bad things but no to Rebellion

9:18 against good things this is something that is of course going to be nuanced and different depending on your culture where you live right this is something that might be different from one country or one neighborhood to the next what is defined as a good Authority or as a bad Authority in your particular life that's something that you need to Define as a parent in accordance to your values and if you need help in figuring out those

9:40 values and how to portray them to your children then make sure that you check out the studio the studio is my membership with thousands of members from around the world where we all come together to learn the leadership skills to build a great family culture to raise children who do know the difference between right and wrong and who have a really stable strong family base from which they can go out into the world with confidence and Clarity and help you

10:03 to raise your children with that conviction so with that said and defined we're now talking about teaching children to be respectful to positive authority figures and I am absolutely going to assume that you are one of them and I hope that you do the same because step number two is to respect yourselves so many mothers and fathers that I know don't respect themselves don't hold themselves to high regard don't treat themselves the way they might treat

10:29 their neighbors their colleagues their friends or even their kids they seem to think that the more they dishevel themselves put themselves down deprecate themselves and don't really stand up for what they believe in or their own boundaries the Kinder they are the more compassionate they are the more empathic they are the better they are as people and I think this is really far from the truth I think people who don't have self-respect who don't know how to say

10:54 no how to hold boundaries how to treat themselves well with self-care are likely to be trampled on by their children their children are likely to see them as weak as incapable as incompetent and as someone that they disrespect it doesn't command respect when you don't respect yourself when you stand up straight when you're clear in your Communications when you make your bed at the beginning of the day when you put yourself together physically when you take care of your body and when you

11:25 take care of your time then you're projecting to your child and to everyone else that you are worthy of respect but if you don't even respect yourself how are other people ever going to muster up the energy it takes to respect you especially your children when they used to seeing you eat crumbs off the floor either metaphorically or literally they are likely to think well I guess that's just how Mom eats and not think that you

11:52 two are worthy of a proper sit down meal sometimes self-respect comes in the form of really simple and superficial things like getting dressed in the morning like asking your child to wait while you're on a phone call or like saying no when it's just one book too many and you need to get on with your evening protecting your time your privacy your sense of self of being put together your relationships those things actually do command respect people see that and they

12:23 think wow I really respect that individual they respect themselves number three is to become more commanding in your tone state things clearly and with conviction we're used to watering down our message a lot for our kids that is the popular trendy cultural way of parenting these days right it's that conscious respectful gentle Etc parenting atmosphere that's all about getting very wordy explaining a lot apologizing softening toning all

12:55 of our messages down and I think there's something to be said for that I mean I could still man that argument and say that yeah when I want to talk respectfully to my kids I do explain what I mean I don't just say because I said so I do offer them Alternatives or choices from time to time and I think that you know in small quantities in measured ways those things are healthy in our parenting however you can go too

13:22 far and get too worthy and too explanatory and too apologetic to the point where you're groveling where you're bribing where you're begging where you're Cooling and negotiating on all of your requests and that is something that's hard to respect when someone is always suffering and twisting themselves in pretzels to please their child and to word it and phrase it just so and to be just ever so sensitive to anything that might be perceived as any kind of

13:53 authority then you're at the risk of losing your Authority you're not an authority in their life anymore if everything is up for negotiation it's okay to negotiate here and there to have a conversation about things or to explain yourself when you feel in control when it's a decision that you've made like honey I would like to discuss our screen time rules with you I'm open to hearing ideas we can negotiate this I want to get to a win-win situation with

14:17 you okay that is tone of voice that does command respect even though it's a negotiation you're not begging you're not cooling you're not backtracking you're not twisting yourself up what we also need to be able to do is to talk with conviction with Clarity with confidence and without room for negotiation we parents today seem to have lost our ability to Simply state the rule to Simply share what is going to happen to Simply say our expectations

14:47 out loud to be able to say I expect you to be there on time I want you to switch off right now it's time for bed saying clear statements sharing your house rules and expectations is something that's fallen out of fashion that is unpopular because it kind of somewhat somewhere smells a little bit of authoritarianism but it's not authoritarian it's simply having Authority it's simply commanding respect

15:19 commanding respect is a bit like being a commander right a commander who has authority over their unit doesn't constantly apologize and backtrack and justify and um and ah over what they want to say they're clear they share the direction they are leaders they have conviction they've done all of the different thinking and debating and hesitating and doubts inside their head and now they're coming out with a command they are telling their child what to do that is not authoritarian in

15:52 a negative sense but rather authoritative in a positive sense children also need to be able to follow commands they need to be able to hear what you want them to do and what is going to happen and then to follow through on those without asking for explanations asking for adjustments making negotiations and pleas and Bargains you do need to sometimes be able to say we're doing this because I said so mainstream parenting today offers us different roots to

16:23 communicating with our children from requests to offering choices to directing and redirecting guidance and modeling but what it leaves out is something really important and that is commanding simply saying you will do this now put the toys away go and tidy your R put your shoes on switch the TV off come and eat dinner these are the types of things that are direct that are honest and authentic and yes they command respect because we're being

16:54 clear about what we're asking for we're not setting up the conversation for push back and negotiations now in a different video I'm going to break down the different styles of communicating and making requests and explain exactly the pros and cons of each and where they're going to be applicable but because we're talking about commanding respect here I want to bring back the ability to make simple commands this is something that might make you feel a bit of the ick or

17:19 a bit queasy or like oh I could never do that or ew my child will hate me but let me tell you something leaders who are comfortable with their Authority command respect when you're comfortable making clear they're kind and respectful and polite commands but they are commands you will be respected by your child the truth is that the most soft and gentle and loving and empathic and flexible and communicative and negotiating you are you might be warm and fuzzy but you

17:49 won't be respected your child might feel CH and safe with you but they won't actually rever and respect you and I think as a parent we actually need both in order to do right by our child we need the warmth and the love and the coziness but there are times perhaps sparingly but there are times when we need to be able to Simply make commands those commands need to be fair they need to be reasonable they need to be age

18:14 appropriate they need to be spoken with a smile and with warmth not with threats ultimatums or punishments but they are commands and they are spoken clearly with conviction with Clarity without apology and hesitation the next point is to stop demanding respect and start commanding it in the way that you live your life demanding respect is a sign of weakness anyone who begs please respect me that's disrespectful how are you being so disrespectful to me immediately appears weak and a bit pathetic

18:47 sometimes or pitiful it's like sad and we don't feel just you know inspired to respect this person to really rever them and hold them in high regard when someone's constantly whining crying winging upset insulted and offended that their child doesn't respect them they are encouraging yet more of that disrespect the child feels yet more unimpressed by this whimpering adult right by this adult who can't simply stand up straight and command respect demanding respect is what happens when

19:18 people beg for it when people decry that they need it when people admonish someone for not giving them respect when people cancel and get angry and get loud and make a fuss over the disrespect commanding respect has a lot more of a quiet gentle kind of a gentle giant or a friendly giant kind of energy right it's the energy of someone who knows their own value who knows they won't stand for disrespect who can quietly and calmly go

19:50 about their business and can correct for disrespect when it happens it's kind of like how I've noticed that many little dogs bark and even bite a lot right they're can they're very loud and very energetic and very worked up and riled up right and maybe that's because they feel a bit insecure maybe that's because they don't actually have that much bite to their bark they don't actually have that much capacity to inflict damage and so they feel really weak and vulnerable

20:22 whereas larger breeds of dogs are often quieter are often calmer are often less energetic and need need less to make a big show of their strength because they know that they're strong they know that they have that bite right that power behind them now that sounds a little violent when we're talking about bites and dogs but it's kind of true for having Authority and leadership in general when you feel conviction when when you feel powerful when you know

20:49 that you do have authority when you know that you can exercise it when you know that you can enact consequences and teach lessons then you feel a lot more calm in your position you feel a lot more confident you don't need to make so much noise about it and that's why you see a lot of parents who are very busy with negotiations and back and forth and bribery and begging and yelling and getting angry and and all of the

21:13 triggering behaviors is it's kind of a flapping around a faffing around and getting flustered and flabbergasted because they feel really really vulnerable they feel really weak they feel insecure they feel ill equipped they don't know how to respond and so they get you know worked up very easily and they're much more likely to get triggered and angry and yelled and again these are behaviors that really are going to elicit a lot of disrespect it can easily seem pathetic and so

21:45 that's one you want to command respect from within that's why self-respect right respecting yourself that's why being really clear and uh speaking with conviction and getting comfortable commands right that's why practicing being respectful to others all of this is going to kind of create that energetic Aura of I know that I should be respected and so I don't need to beg or coo or demand or get mad for it it simply is it's embodying an energy now

22:16 with that said I don't want to get stuck on the same kind of issues that I often see in parenting and just say oh just model it just have the energy and it will all be fine no your kids still watch TV your kids are still children your kids still have underdeveloped prefrontal cortex is uh your kids might still be really rude and disrespectful I know that mine are they roll their eyes they talk back they're sarcastic they

22:38 walk out they do all sorts of things that are rude and here's the part where we actually enforce respectful Behavior but we actually do teach it okay so that's actually step number one in enforcing it is actually teaching our children what constitutes respectful behavior and what doesn't and many of you might feel a bit fuzzy on that culture has gotten a little bit fuzzy on that what is disrespectful but I want you to really think with me now and

23:05 Define for yourself and Define for your child what is disrespectful what is as we call it here what is rudeness right what is unacceptable in a conversation what is a red line that you don't want your child to cross and then you need to say that simply once with conviction with Clarity in a commanding tone that's disrespectful I won't accept that type of rudness from you you're being rude we're so not used to hearing people talk

23:32 with such direction to their children but that's what is necessary when your child is disrespectful to you you actually need to call them out for it and explain to them that here my child watch see what you just did now that's called disrespect that's something that we never do to anyone especially not our parents especially not our elders especially not figures of authority so when your child talks back to you mimics you mocks you talks in a sarcastic tone

24:01 makes light or makes jokes of what you're saying when you're being serious turns a shoulder walks away slams a door hangs up the phone rolls their eyes all of these behaviors just refresher reminder constitute disrespect and disrespect needs to be labeled and shown that's disrespectful just like I hope you teach your child when they're making a spelling mistake when they're eating something that destroys their body when they're doing something that's dangerous we correct them we tell them that's

24:31 dangerous that's unhealthy that's a mistake right we that's what we're here for we're here to guidepost and to help them and to teach them about the world and how the world Works who's going to teach them if you're not who's going to tell them what's disrespectful if you're not who's going to tell them that those behaviors aren't acceptable in polite Society aren't the civilization that we're looking to build aren't the culture that we're looking to uphold so

24:57 we won't accept it at home and it won't be accepted out there in the world okay this is not what we're looking to BU so you're the one who has to teach them that you're the one who has to be the proxy for society that tells them that's disrespectful so that's the first thing that you're going to do is to set the boundary calmly by simply telling them what constitutes disrespect the second thing that you're going to do is you're

25:18 going to have a consequence a logical consequence for what happens when someone's disrespectful I don't know about you but for me if someone's really disrespectful to me in a conversation it might mean mean that the conversation is over until they can collect themselves and talk with respect if someone's really being disrespectful to me it might mean that I'm not in the mood to now do something fun with them or spend special time with them or reward them

25:41 somehow and again this is one of the in my view big mistakes of mainstream parenting today that basically tells us to reward disrespectful Behavior with yet more attention and special time oh it just means that you haven't spent enough time with your kids it means that they miss you it means that you as a mother you're probably just not doing good enough you're not modeling enough respect you're not investing in them enough you haven't given them enough

26:05 attention maybe snuggle up with them and read them a book maybe take them on a special outing maybe go with them to the park maybe get down on the floor and play with them I don't know about you but for me that all just sounds like rewarding bad behavior I want my children to know that I would love to spend time with them I want to spend special time and puzzles and Parks if they can be respectful they need to

26:26 collect themselves and hold themselves to a certain stand because I won't put up with abuse I don't want to hang out with bullies I don't want to hang out with people who are disrespectful no matter how old they are so yes if my six-year-old is being whiny and angry and violent or aggressive or disrespectful I'm going to tell him honey I can't wait to hang out with you when you've calmed down and collected yourself if my 13-year-old is slamming

26:48 doors and making demands and rolling his eyes I'm going to tell him I'm afraid this conversation is over until you can talk to me respectfully I'd love to discuss your plans for the the summer the class you want to take your plans with your friends something you want to buy happy to discuss all of that I can't do it when you're being disrespectful so they need to First address what is disrespectful and Define it and then

27:10 have logical consequences that it is not rewarded it is not encouraged you do not gain what you want by being disrespectful if you're disrespectful in fact the conversation is over we can't discuss this anymore you can't get it anymore screen time is over special Pizza time is over we're not going to the park because you would disrespect disrespectful people don't get what they want that's the message they need to hear now can they overcome that of

27:35 course i' always teach repair and I'm happy to go into repair in a deep video for you let me know in the comments below if that's something that you want to hear more about how do we repair one of the key tools of parenting but is there a logical consequence for disrespect there is it's that people don't want to hang out with you it's that people don't want to do your favors it's that people don't enjoy your

27:54 company it's that people get irritated and riled up and hurt and frustrated and just need some space from you it's that people don't want to go out of their way to fulfill your dreams and Fantasies and give you more attention and wouldn't it be a good idea for our children to learn that natural and logical consequence of disrespect early like wait if you behave in a beastly fashion if you treat the people around you with rudess and

28:18 disregard then they're not going to be bending over backwards to treat you well they're just going to be like taking some space from you and waiting for you to calm down and apologize okay the next one is one of the hardest ones for us parents have made videos about this in the past happy to make some in the future drop me your questions below but the next one is actually for us to master our triggers one of the things

28:40 that maybe makes people respect others the least is to watch them lose control to watch them completely lose their sense of composure to watch them just you know explode when you get triggered and you aren't able to remove yourself from this situation and calm yourself down and hold yourself to a certain standard when you kind of blast through all your own red lines when you're disrespectful to both yourself the surroundings the atmosphere the physical environment the people around you then

29:10 you make yourself an easy target for disrespect it's really hard to have high regard and respect for someone who falls apart for someone who's a mess for someone whose emotionality always gets the better of them it's one of the less respected qualities we can display and so if you are constantly on an emotional roller coaster if you're constantly at the whim of the news of social media of your friends of your kids if you're always on these ups and downs and you're

29:37 just kind of being whipped around by circumstance and situation then it's going to be hard for you to command respect first of all you don't have that grounded centered backbone you don't have the broad shoulders you're not someone that we look up to and we want to emulate but second of all when I'm in that state I myself can't set clear boundaries can't be teaching my children about respect can't be respectful towards them and so I'm a mess I'm

30:02 unattractive I'm uninspiring I'm someone that's easy to Simply disrespect to see as kind of weak and pathetic and not worthy of looking up to and of treating with a certain boundary and so for me one of the biggest things I need to do in order to command respect for my children is to master my own triggers and to become less emotional now that doesn't mean less feeling you still feel feelings I still feel happiness and sadness and grief and frustration and

30:33 anger and anxiety and joy and all of these different feelings the emotions might come through my body I might really get emotional but the trick is to learn not to emote right not to actually act those out not to actually get easily triggered into flight or fight mode where I am now out of control not to behave crazy right not to be a mess all the time and I know that this is something that so many of us struggle

30:59 with whether it's hormonal roller coasters whether it's getting thrown for a loop from hearing the news whether it's something that our children said that hit us right here whatever it is there's an internal sense of emotional turmoil of never just being okay of never being solid grounded a rock and that is something that we ourselves disrespect about ourselves like I don't know about you but when I've lost it when I've done and said things that I'm

31:26 ashamed of I don't don't respect myself and I don't respect myself it just kind of becomes a vicious cycle that I'm going to stuff my face with chocolate I'm going to stay up late scrolling you know doomsday scrolling on Instagram I'm going to uh you know be disrespectful to my husband to my work to my time to my body to my kids it becomes a vicious cycle when I am overly emotional hyp sensitive unable to control my own

31:51 internal dialogue and mindset then I think it's really hard for me to command respect and to do all the things that we've said here today and so this point is a point about self-development and growth it's exactly what we focus on inside my membership the studio go to ham.com studio and check it out and then you'll learn how to become a leader how to become more solid more grounded more C have more convictions and clarity about your values about what you stand

32:17 for about how you want to run your home how you want to build your life your schedule your routines your rituals all of the things that make you bonded that make you enjoy the meaning of family life like family meals like family outings time in nature healthy habits all that good stuff is stuff that comes from our ability to set the tone to lead to be the CEOs of our family but if we're an emotional mess if we're

32:42 following mainstream ideas like follow your feelings your feelings Never Lie let your feelings guide you whatever you feel let it out express yourself it's authentic it's good feel the rage feel the anger get angry all of that bad advice leave leads us into a chaotic messy state where we can't lead with Clarity and we can't feel that we have any self-respect let alone command respect from our children or from those around us people who we look up to and

33:14 just ask yourself who it is that you look up to people who we look up to usually overcome their chaotic emotive you know sensationalist catastrophic internal dialogue okay they overcome that they master that they have a spot of stoicism right they are able to button up they are able to hold it together they're able to cry to feel their feelings but then they put their big G pants on and they get on with it they take the next

33:42 right step they're not just stuck right they're not a puddle on the floor those are the people that we respect and we might talk a big talk in society about expressing yourself and letting it all out and not holding it in and not you know putting any boundaries on yourself but the truth is that most of us don't find that very inspiring most of us don't want to be that way and most of us feel a real hangover after we've behaved

34:05 like that after we've just let everything hung out after we've been super vulnerable and expressive and authentic but really it was just about letting ourselves get triggered get emotional get swept away in all sorts of cognitive fallacies and I think it's a pseudo science to say that that is somehow cathartic or helpful or useful in building family life and building a life that we are proud of living that we feel joyful in that we feel Clarity and

34:34 confidence about so I'm a little bit on a mission to help you not to go down that path but instead to re it back to master yourself and when we Master ourselves we have self resect our children can respect us more our surroundings can respect us more and we don't feel those real you know highs and lows that roller coaster of Shame and exposure and vulnerability and confusion that come with being overly emotional so mastering your emotions is something

35:02 that I teach inside my course alchemize it's all about how to become unoffendable unv vitim mised and really unshakable even though the world out there is scary and offensive and if that's something that interests you and feels like yeah I need that kind of boost I need that kind of strengthening then I invite you to check it out let me know in the comments below what you'd like to see next for me I've mentioned a few things here and I'm happy to make

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