Divorce Is Not Bad

0:00 in order to talk about divorce in a healthy way we need to understand why we're so terrified of the word divorce the reason why all of us are so scared of this word divorce is because our understanding of marriage is faulty the current paradigm around marriage states that a successful marriage is one that lasts for eternity it doesn't matter if both people are miserable it doesn't matter if they do not speak to each other it doesn't matter that the

0:28 greatest lies they tell are to each other it doesn't matter that they don't grow it doesn't matter that they don't stay in harmony none of that matters the key indicator of a successful marriage is one thing only longevity now if you have that definition in your mind then obviously divorce which is a break in longevity indicates terror indicates failure indicates despair devastation so when you have that paradigm no wonder you

0:58 cannot approach divorce in a healthy abundant joyful way it's understandable so in order to talk to our kids about divorce with health and abundance we need to transform a whole understanding of marriage we need to no longer define marriage or a successful marriage as one that is long-lasting we need to define marriage on different terms we need to define marriage on the terms of growth on the terms of authenticity on the terms of freedom can I be honest with

1:29 this person can I grow with this person can I be my most authentic self and if the answer is no then it's quite okay to put a pause to the manwich or change the marriage or end the marriage but you see we're so afraid of transformation we are so afraid of change because we're so afraid of the unknown that divorce has such a bad rap divorce is simply the end of a phase it's simply the divorce of

1:57 the dysfunction it's perhaps the divorce of the inauthenticity it's perhaps a divorce from the fear it's perhaps a divorce from the status quo a divorce from the old is a positive thing but we're so afraid of this because of our cultural conditionings around marriage so in order to talk to your children about divorce if you're going through one you need to really dig deep go within to examine your belief systems around marriage it is only when you come to

2:28 peace about what marriage truly needs to be which according to me is about one thing only really growth then if that doesn't exist in the marriage or no longer exists and there is a beautiful release of the marriage and that beautiful release in our current paradigm is called divorce and if we can come to that with the sense of equanimity and peace and completion understanding that cycles change in nature all the time.if cycles do not change we would not have the universe as

2:58 it is today so divorce is another change in cycle if we view it like that our children will absorb this message when they see us abundant and thriving and free and happy to have completed a cycle then they will not have a negative view of divorce so again it all comes from our belief systems and this requires us parents to challenge what culture has told us about marriage and divorce [Music] you