You Can't Want Masculinity And Shame It

0:00 If you drown men in toxic masculinity narratives and patriarch narratives and all of those narratives, don't be surprised when they don't come on to you and when they don't hit on you and when they don't initiate because it's bloody frightening to do that as a man. You don't want to be perceived as an aggressor. You don't want to be perceived as someone who only has one thing on their mind. You don't want to be perceived as overly assertive, strong, independent woman. Go ahead. Go right ahead. Here, you got what you asked for. You're a strong, independent woman. I'm going to sit passively and meekly in the corner until you tell me what my marching orders are. And then you're like, "Oh my god, that's the least attractive thing I've ever seen." So, if you want him to be masculine, initiating, uh, a bit more assertive, a bit more powerful, you're going to need to tell him that, that it's safe, that it's wanted, that you like it, okay? that he actually needs to reprogram himself to say, "No, this is what my wife wants."