Dr Shefali Tsabary The Workings of the Ego

0:04 one of the greatest traps obscuring our ability to engage in conscious parenting is our ego what is the ego you might ask what simply explained the ego is our zealous attachment to our righteousness our zealous attachment to our sense of i as parents we carry a certain sense that because our children come to us we have the power and domination over them

0:35 we mistakenly assume because our children are ours and we so proudly call them ours that we then can extend this power onto things that we have no right to such as their experiences their emotions their thoughts their likes their dislikes and their aptitudes as parents we have the sublime opportunity to raise our children yes but we have no right to lay domination over who they intrinsically are as

1:08 individuals it is here that the ego comes in the way it is when we parents with our sense of ownership over our children call them ours we believe that this extends to their experiences their thoughts and their opinions we have no right over their thoughts we have no privy to their experiences these lie in the dominion of our children's will and we parents need to understand that

1:40 we need to hold back our egos step away from them from our egos escape its deadly snare and engage with our children with a respectful understanding that our children know intuitively who it is they are meant to be in this world they do not need our ownership power or control they intuitively know how to exist in their own right