Life by design

0:00 In 2008, Brony Wear published a blog called Regret of the Dying. That got so million so many views, I think about 8 millions that it pushed Brony Wear to write a book that became a bestseller called the top five regret of the dying. Bruny Wear is an Australian palative care nurse, which means she looks after people on their deathbed. And she asked many people about their biggest regret. Regret number one, I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected from me.

0:42 Bonjour. This is from work smarterly better. In this video, Sra and I want to talk about a really important principle called life by design. We are where where are you where are we at the moment? >> We are in the middle of nowhere in Morocco in front of a lake that serial is showing you right now and we are actually with our main best friends.

1:12 We've known each other for 35 years and all the friends that are here with our kids. We've known each other for 40 years for some of them and we are just >> having a good time together and it's quite amazing that we've managed with some of us living in France, in Spain, in Buenosares, Argentina, us in Sydney and we still manage every year to get together and leave an experience like this. I have the pleasure of working with many leaders and we talk about performance at work and there's always a point in the end where we have a discussion about what does it mean in your personal life and it always surprised me how much more energy and effort and time leaders spend planning their business life but very little about their personal life.

2:02 This pushed me actually to when we train a team of leaders to have a session that I call amplify your life where we talk about all those principle but apply to your personal life. Life by design is the mindset for me behind that. What does that mean for me? Life by design mean that first of all I have a longterm plan. I've asked myself and I do this exercise with the people I train. It takes literally maybe 10, 15, half an hour to think about what an amazing life looks like. Imagine yourself in five to 10 years times what a great life looks like and write it down. My second point is it's the yearly. And so the first one is a long term. the sec let's say 5 to 10 years. The second point is the yearly. Every year TK and I sit down together and ask ourself what does a great year looks like? And so for this year a great year looks like included a trip with those friends and we had discussion with them and we planned it.

3:01 The third one is the quarterly and you know me if you know me you know my the importance of big rocks. So every quarter I choose two or three business big rocks but two also two or three personal big rocks. Sounds simple but I write them down. I explain what are my personal big rocks. I clarify them and then on the weekly basis I have one weekly planning and in this weekly planning yes I plan my business big rocks but I also ask myself this very important question for each of my personal big rocks what do I need to do next week to progress it and it link then to small task then I schedule in my calendar it's not that hard it's really simple but the result is >> here we are >> spending this amazing Amazing two weeks in Marco with those really close friends. Something that I think we'll both remember for the rest of our life.

3:53 >> Yeah. And so our kids. >> And so our kids. And it's amazing to see that our kids which are not all adults, they all want to come. Of course, it's being sponsored by the parents. So I guess that the sponsoring helps as well, but they all love those kind of holiday where we're all together. >> my question to you is this. What are your big rocks? Maybe you have a question. What's the question? >> I have a question for you actually. You have a huge big rocks coming in in September, I guess. So maybe you can share with the audience.

4:21 >> I have a very big rock. It's interesting because it's a business big rock, but also a personal one. In September, I'm releasing a new book called Less Achieve More. So I wrote work smarterly better about 15 16 years ago. And I've decided that to update it and to take it to the next level and to leave something hopefully that's going to be useful, which brought me to let's achieve more. So 1st of September, let's achieve more.

4:46 >> All right. >> So we are about to continue. I think we have another 3-hour walk in front of us which going to be fun and hard and then we have another week of traveling in this beautiful setting. this is this week work smart tip. You have a lovely day. Ciao.