Transcript
0:00 Are you a 90s child who grew up hearing some really nasty things? Like, you're so fat. Stop eating. Why can't you be more like your cousin? You're so lazy. You're not gonna achieve anything. Stop crying. You're such a crybaby. What is there to cry about? This. If you don't study, you don't go to a good school or a college, and you don't get good marks, you're gonna be a failure. Did you somehow internalize the message that people are only proud of you when you do well and when you perform?
0:24 Were your embarrassing stories also shared in front of relatives? I know that was completely normal in the 90s, you know, that is how love and warmth was shown. And because we heard it, these words actually live within us. They become a part of us. They sit quietly within us until we are triggered, until we are overwhelmed. And suddenly, all of these words, they want to come out. But I'm so freaking proud of the millennial parents. I work with so many of them on a daily basis because these parents, we parents, we are breaking the cycle.
0:55 We are changing the narrative. We are catching ourselves in between sentences. We are apologizing to our children when we screw up. We are literally breaking the cycle. And I'm really, really proud that our generation is doing the work that our parents couldn't do. They didn't know better. We know better, and we should do better. So tell me one way in which you're becoming a cycle breaker.
Summary
- Many 90s children faced harsh criticism that affected their self-esteem.
- Negative messages often included comments about weight, laziness, and academic performance.
- These internalized beliefs can resurface when individuals feel overwhelmed.
- Millennial parents are recognized for their efforts to change this narrative.
- They are more likely to apologize to their children and acknowledge their mistakes.
- The speaker encourages parents to identify ways they are breaking the cycle of negativity.