Conscious Parenting with Dr. Shefali in Surrey

0:00 [Music] and so here I am to challenge you to really think deeply intuitively ask yourself how true am I being to my most authentic self I am thrilled I get to do this for you

0:32 because you are about to hear from a parenting expert who is in the 30 years that I've been doing interviews the best I've ever heard the way to 16 is true parental evolution to Zone in on the parent-child dynamic is to heal the planet she's absolutely revolutionary and so evolved that her ideas are really

1:03 a paradigm shift that can change the world the curious you know well what is it you know if it isn't what we think it is success money marriage stability maturity then what is it and I began to see that it's this thing that I call consciousness imagine if there were conscious parents who created awakened families dr. Shefali sabar so here is

1:34 where you need to take charge and dare to change the antipathy the antagonism and the hatred and the bigotry in your mind of course it doesn't show up as blatant racism of course it doesn't but the seed of racism doesn't have to be against another it can just be against an idea it can just be against the behavior it can just be against your child who contradicts your fantasy of who she should be so unify your mind when Mother

2:00 Teresa was asked if she ever participates in anti-war protests she said no you'll never find me there but at the pro peace rally yes so go create your own throw piece first and our children too are the same they delight in change in change in change they can change form effortlessly because they do not hold on to the going agenda of what was or what should be because ultimately all I wanted was to know that I was

2:31 being seen for who it is I am not to fit into your agenda and your image of a good life and we use our children our children are not our easels upon which we get to paint the life we never had our children are not the diamonds and the jewels you get to adorn yourself with to mask your emptiness and your children are not your puppets by which you get to fake an authentic life you know to fit into our idea so they never

3:02 get seen to look good on our Instagram page - so then what about our friends so now they're gonna have kids because they need to be seen this is why we keep having kids in the unconscious way waiting to be seen I know but it's a human race right now this is what relationships are it's a constant you know ping-pong of projection now one is projecting their need and the other one thinks that they can fulfill it it eventually it's the

3:32 understanding that that we only when we detach from the projection and fill our own need right and feel satiated from within that we can truly be fulfilled and happy I'm not asking you to give up control rest keep your control I'm asking you to do something far more profound far more challenging far more severe give up control easy what I'm asking you to do is give up your delusion that you even think you need to

4:04 have control so I ask you today for those of you who have children in your life to follow their lead because they will take you into the present moment like no one else can it is just our resistance to enter the new so I ask you are you ready to enter the new are you ready awaken yourself to your own healing Helion baggage discover your own wounds resolve your own unmet needs and turned the spotlight within that is the entry

4:35 point for raising a resilient child that is the way to begin creating connection I loved super soul Sunday I'd watch it every Sunday with my daughter and like that was our special time and when dr. Shefali was on I just couldn't stop crying because it just felt like everything she was saying resonated within me in such a deep way and she was saying things I had never heard anyone else say before but

5:07 they felt so familiar and unless we awaken to our own unique manifestation of the patterns of our ancestors we will continue to be puppeteered chattel to the slaughterhouse so your task in this life or today or just for this moment or when you care to go or when you're drowning deep in the muck of your past is to realize it's not that dire you are just one of many you're one of the same and you're just living out a pattern

5:36 it's your awakening to what your unique script is undergirded by the ubiquitous team of fear that you will then uncover an lair unwind unthread and deconstruct what she's doing is something like you're pretty inexplicable because I mean what she's talking about is profound but very simple at the same time but it's the way she does the joy that she brings to the conversation I think is really empowering because I've

6:07 seen a lot of different people try to talk about the subject matter she just brings this beautiful constant flow of joy to discussion to the work but the minute they are on this journey they become liberated because they can trust that in a guide they can react cess their own you know a purpose for living and reorient themselves to their inner compass right what greater liberation they don't have to read another parenting book thinking right it all

6:38 starts from within the last thing a parent because we're very defensive and we always believe they're right and this is our one chance to show the world that this recorded right you know we're good enough our children and now I've being told that it is not the child and it's all you and there's something you need to look at is threatening for the parent is threatening for anyone no one wants to look in the mirror correct the core of all dysfunction that

7:07 you may or may not choose to witness in yourself really was the legacy left behind by your very generous unconscious parents so you've come here not to learn or write more notes but to really shared your skin to slough off all that others who lived in fear before you told you to live by those are the standards you need to get rid as you'll never find a client after client after client come looking for things but the thing they're looking for

7:37 lies within them well it's our desire to be the best which really comes from a deep sense of low self-worth because we are already in our ordinariness perfect this striving to be the best is just you know a sure way to to create crippling anxiety because you have to be something and what is the best and who defines that so then when you solo journey for a while

8:08 and acquaint yourself with who it is you truly are people go looking for who it is they are there's no need to look it's right there it's been buried under layers of conditioning lies from the prescriptions that you've been taught from toxic culture so when you leave the maddening crowd slowly you begin to hear this is me this is my truth but you have to allow yourself the opportunity so if

8:40 you are sitting here wanting to discover your authentic self but having yet traverse a lonely journey alone you're just beginning you must encounter the dark night of the soul where you leave to find [Music] it is time for us parents to answer our call to our own awakening the moment is now and our children await dr. Shefali

9:12 sabar you [Music]