What we can learn from life changing foster parents 💗

0:00 there was a group of researchers in Oregon who were working with children that had been apprehended away from their birth families due to abuse and Trauma and had been placed into the statun foster care system where they were being cared for by surrogate parents not just any foster parents these parents had been trained in the art of growing up children with relationship at the core so that these kids were getting marinated in this environment of safety empathy and warmth

0:29 well still having rules and boundaries and expectations and all of the things that make children feel safe and cared for right and what they did is they wanted to look at cortisol levels and so these children had their cortisol levels analyzed and their base levels first of all were very high and secondly when they responded to a stressor their cortisol levels would shoot really high and then stay really high for a really long period of time before gradually

0:53 tapering down to kind of regular base level over time as they were cared for and nurturing and compassionate ways what happened is the cortisol response pattern post stressor with a little blip and then right back down in order to change a cortisol response pattern you have to have rewired a brain and guess how long that took 3 months three months to Forever change the life trajectory of

1:25 that child that child now has a chance to be 37 years old and be happy and how did we get there we got there through love we got there through relationship we got there through compassion and so the answer for how you rewire your children's brains or wire them up in the way that nature intended from the gecko is that you have to hold their heart in your hands you literally need them to give you their hearts them knowing that

1:56 you can be trusted with the safekeeping of that heart that you will have their back and when you can see a child for their soul as opposed to getting stuck on the outside when they're talking back to you and melting down and won't cooperate and really creating huge inconvenience in your life if you can get past that and see that they're a soul what an opportunity you give them what a gift you give that child what a

2:25 gift you give this world that you brought a being in into it that gets to be seen and heard in that kind of way if we could do that for every child we would change the world