How do we help a child who doesn't want to breathe or go to the Safe Place in moments of upset?

Name: How do we help a child who doesn't want to breathe or go to the Safe Place in moments of upset?
Uploaded: 2026-05-25
Duration: 1 min 29 s
Channel: Conscious Discipline
Description: The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining calmness and empathy when interacting with resistant children. They highlight the need to approach the

Conscious Discipline · 1m · transcribed May 2026

More from Conscious Discipline Family and Health

Summary Section Insights Transcript

Transcript

0:00 I found um that me being calm and trying to be present with them is very helpful having empathy with them in that moment is helpful and also noticing where noticing them so before I even go to them first you want to always make sure that you're calm and you're composed right because it's very easy to fall into the Trap of when you have a child that you know is going to be resistant to think well they're just going to be

0:22 resistant anyway if I go over there this isn't going to work so you want to remove all that negativity out your mind before you even approach the child because if you approached them thinking that it's going to be negative you already have the perception it's already going to shape your experience so you want to try to clear your mind of any negative thoughts which is something that you have to practice because our brains are just naturally going to want

0:40 to think something negative so you want to make sure that you're trying to be present you're thinking positive thoughts about the child and you don't want to judge you're not going to assume why anything's happening you just want to go there and you want to notice what's going on with them so you may say you know you know your eyes are going like this your mouth is going like this you know you seem angry um sometimes if

1:00 really resistant um there are no words that need to be said in that moment sometimes it's just breathing that's been the most helpful I found in the past I was so caught up on just saying the words because I know I needed to say the words that it wasn't helping the child they weren't hearing me and I was just saying the words so in some moments it's most helpful to just go there and breathe with them and wish

1:24 them well and try to keep them calm

Summary

The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining calmness and empathy when interacting with resistant children. They highlight the need to approach these situations with a positive mindset, free from negative assumptions, and sometimes prioritize non-verbal communication, such as breathing together, over verbal reassurances.

- Staying calm and composed is crucial before approaching a resistant child.
- Negative thoughts can shape the interaction; it's important to clear the mind of these thoughts.
- Empathy and presence are key in understanding the child's emotions.
- Observing the child's physical cues can provide insights into their feelings.
- Sometimes, words are unnecessary; simply breathing together can be more effective.
- The speaker reflects on past experiences where focusing too much on verbal communication hindered connection.
- Non-judgmental observation fosters a supportive environment for the child.