When Your Child’s Reaction Feels Personal… But It’s Not

0:00 Okay. So, have you ever had one of those moments where the words are flying out of your mouth and you are cringing as you are saying them, but you just can't help yourself? I had one of those moments the other day. My daughter was whining and complaining about how she couldn't go to an event because she had school and my mind instantly went to all of the things that I had done for them over the summer. And I blurted out, "Nothing I do is good enough." And I'm like, girl, where did that come from?

0:31 What what's happening? How did we get here? And so later when my wise mind kicked back in, I had to remind myself that it's not about the event. It's about feeling left out and grieving that now that school has started, she is not able to do all of the things that we were able to do in the summer. But it's not the event. It's not that I'm not doing enough, right? Because that's where my mind instantly went to. I took it personal. I'm like, you just think I'm never doing enough. And it's like, no, it's not about me. It's about feeling left out and having that feeling of FOMO, which we can all relate to. So, I'm just curious. I wanted to kind of share this moment with you to see, is there anybody else who can relate? Have you had that feeling recently where you're like, "Wo, how did we get here?

1:15 Why am I saying this?" And I think what I want you to take away, just gentle offering, is it's not about the thing. It's not about the event. It's not about whatever they're complaining about. It's about the feeling associated with it.