Don't Be a Perfectionist; be an 'Improvenist'

0:00 the biggest thing I would say is don't be a perfectionist be an improvenist the goal isn't to be perfect every day the goal is to improve a little every day and I think so many times with learning a new way with trying to improve in really any area of life that we get so bogged down with where we're not at yet that it slows us it weighs us down from

0:31 actually moving towards that goal it becomes the anchor of our progress and we're just because it's like I'm not perfect I didn't do it right and we become paralyzed in that and so to have that improve in this mindset and you see it from children very young to adults very old that child who you know spills the milk right and is paralyzed in fear and I've seen the change change happen in shelter every

1:02 year working in a Montessori classroom because the big thing was hey teach them the Practical life skills and so we do Family Style Dining and they'd be pouring their own milk and inevitably there'd be spills right and there'd always be one or two children at the beginning of the year be paralyzed and did not know what to do with that milk to the point where they're so paralyzed the liquid is slow yeah over to the to the lap it is where it's got

1:29 to be a bigger problem and so paralyzed that they can't even get out the way right let alone solve the problem the way that I would respond to it over time this bill would happen even that initial reaction you know maybe there's a little bit of like oh and then like that they're going to get the paper towels and cleaning up and you're seeing their friends and the people at the table doing the same thing and helping them

1:55 um so the biggest thing I would say is you know don't be perfectionist being a provenist because otherwise if if you're in the perfectionist mindset you're going to be like that child who spilled the milk you know metaphorically whether it's messing up or yelling when you know to tap into the calm and breathe into the mantras and do all this that's that's the spilled milk right give yourselves Grace remember the process it's okay to make mistakes

2:23 it's important to make mistakes it's an opportunity for Learning and so being a provenist not a perfectionist