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0:00 we never truly make friends with ourselves we never know what it means to sit in solitude to sit under a tree in quiet to be on our own on a beach or on a vacation or a dinner we look at being alone as if there's something wrong with us we are living in a culture that doesn't encourage us to spend time with ourselves in fact we're encouraged to always be with other people or other things or distracted but in food if we
0:31 are at home with ourselves if we truly feel as if we are our most valuable companion then we will never feel lonely you see because we are with ourselves it's because we don't believe that we are ourselves a worthy companion we are not fascinated with ourselves we don't believe that a conversation with ourselves is important that we keep looking for others on the outside to fill this void but the truth is we are our most important friend the most loyal
1:00 companion we can ever have and it is up to us to foster and nurture and blossom this relationship with ourselves you know we should never be looking to get married to anyone on the outside we should never be looking to be anyone else's best friend until we are first married to ourselves until we are our own best friend so as we learn to become comfortable with ourselves to honor our own solitude to befriend our own inner soul then our
1:29 feelings of loneliness disappear you see loneliness comes from this belief that we who we are on our own is not good enough for us feeling lonely is one of the most common human experiences it's something that we've all experienced it's it's natural it's normal but it does lead to suffering this feeling you see the feeling of loneliness really arises from a feeling of not being at home with the self but what if this were to change
2:00 what if you began to look at yourself as the most prized treasure and possession ever that you look forward to your own company every evening that you desired your own solitude your own thoughts your own talk your own conversation then the question wouldn't arise about whether you're lonely or not so the journey begins with you you befriending yourself and coming home to your own inner companionship
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Summary
- Society often discourages solitude, promoting constant connection with others instead.
- Many people view being alone as a negative experience, leading to feelings of loneliness.
- True companionship begins with recognizing oneself as a worthy friend and companion.
- Loneliness stems from not feeling at home with oneself, not from a lack of external relationships.
- Embracing solitude allows for self-discovery and appreciation of one's own company.
- The journey to overcoming loneliness involves nurturing a relationship with oneself.
- Self-acceptance and self-love are crucial for feeling fulfilled and content in one's own presence.
- Before seeking external relationships, individuals should prioritize becoming their own best friend.