Stop Saying These Phrases to your Child | Dad University #shorts #parentingfail #dadadvice #dads

0:00 dads if you are seeing any of these three phrases to your child please stop first one what's wrong with you now your child looks up to you what you say matters it could also be detrimental to them they may take that to heart and actually feel like there's something wrong with them that's not what we want so instead say what made you decide to do that or what were you thinking when you did that hey the answer might not

0:25 matter but at least we're not telling them that something's wrong with them number two you're okay we might say this when our child is hurt and we want to help them get through whatever it is that they're facing but it's pretty dismissive instead we might want to have some empathy and say hey it looks like you're really hurt is there something I can do to help you when you just say hey you're okay you think that that makes

0:49 them feel better but when you're pissed off or angry or hurt and someone just says hey don't worry about it just be okay how does that make you feel number three you are making me mad this could also be you know you're frustrating me or you're getting me upset you have to take responsibility for your feelings your feelings are not your child's responsibility they are yours so instead you could say hey I'm feeling really frustrated right now or

1:16 I'm getting upset but do not put the blame on your child because your feelings are your responsibility listen we all say things that we regret you know that we feel like afterwards hey maybe I shouldn't have said that or sometimes we don't even realize how bad the things that we are saying are and they can really affect somebody else so tell me what is something that you've said to your child that you then regretted foreign