The One Toxic Person You May Need To Let Go Of

0:00 There's one type of toxic person that we don't think we can leave. This kind of person is someone we're told by culture that we are the bad ones if we withdraw ourselves from. This is a person that few people really talk about leaving. This person is a parent. Sometimes parents are the toxic influence in our lives. But we have been so conditioned to be good children, to believe that they should always be part of our lives.

0:31 If the same behaviors were exhibited by a friend or a stranger toward us, we would never keep them in our lives. You see, our relationship with our parents is very complex. We are dependent on them. We grew up addicted to their validation, to their approval, to their acceptance. And that desire to be seen with by them never really dies. But the sad reality we all might have to face one day in our lives is that our parent may actually be unconscious, may be unable to give us what we need.

1:06 And as adults, we are foraging for their affection, desiring, striving, craving. But it never comes. At some point, we need to become awake to their degree of unconsciousness, to the fact that they're simply incapable of seeing us the way that we want them to see us. And at this point, when we come to this awareness, it may be time to divorce your parent. And by divorce, I don't mean abandonment or termination of the relationship. I mean a divorce from the toxicity of the relationship, a divorce from its dysfunctional patterns.

1:42 It is hard to come to this realization, but it is a key step in our own adulting to accept it may be time to divorce our parents. And that may be the healthiest thing you can do. You know, culture tells us that good children never do such things, that we should always be obedient to them because they raised us. And of course, we don't have to do this with hatred or animosity. We just need to do this as a sign of health, as a sign of self love.

2:12 It's okay to let go of our dysfunctional parents. It's okay to let go of these toxic bonds when they are debilitating us. Of course we try our best. But at some point we need to come to an acceptance that our parents may simply be too unconscious for us to continue and evolve forward with. So it's important that we give ourselves the permission to remove all dysfunctional patterns from our lives. Every human being may come to a point where they need to break from their past, because the past has too many unconscious decades and legacies of toxicity.

2:46 It's okay if you're the person who disrupts that pattern. It's okay to be a pattern disruptor. It's okay to let go of dysfunction. When we declare to ourselves that our relationship to ourselves is more vital and important than any relationship out there, then we truly begin the process of healing. So if you know someone out there who's been suffering for too long, enmeshed in a dysfunctional relationship with their parents, unable to speak up, unable to break out and break free, then send them this video.

3:19 Maybe it could help them.