You are on the same team as other adults in your child's life.

0:00 We all have guidelines that are non-negotiables and only you know what those are. You know your family best. You know what really matters and after some exploration if this feels really important and it's intolerable for someone else to break it for any given reason, it is your right to have that conversation. The one piece of guidance I would give you is to please approach that other adult like your teammates, not enemies. If you approach someone else like they're your enemy, they will only become defensive because we all become defensive when we're looked at.

0:30 One way you can avoid that defensiveness is just being a little more direct and vulnerable, which is not possible if we have not done that step two of understanding ourselves. Might sound more like this. Hey, I want to talk to you about something that we seem to do a little differently. But I'm talking to you from a place of us being on the same team, both being very important people obviously in this kid's life. And this is just something that's important to me and I would really just love your cooperation around.