Kids rarely need lectures when they make mistakes, they need re-connection & help from us!

0:00 okay so my daughter recently bit her sister here's how I stayed connected while I still enforcing boundaries so here's the thing I know that oftentimes the first thing that will come out of my mouth will likely not be helpful so instead I focus my energy on staying quiet and comforting the one who was hurt um this allows us all to take a pause and focus on regulating our emotions because I try my best to remember that I cannot teach when we are

0:23 all in this heightened emotional state then when I feel ready I focus my attention back on my daughter who bit her sister and I remember this a misbehaving child is a discouraged child so I focus my energy on reconnecting with that part of her and also labeling her emotions wow you got really upset at your sister what was that like for you how did that feel and how do you think that made your sister feel and then I

0:48 move into problem solving well what can we do differently in that moment when you need something or you're having a hard time how can you get your needs met without hurting other people's bodies now check out the caption for the most important step