Transcript
0:00 Men are both socialized and naturally have a tendency to be more stoic, to to button up, to bottle up, to handle themselves. And even even though there's been a very push to feminize men, it's okay to cry. You should express your feelings. I want you to open up to me. They often then still get punished by their wives for opening up, right? She can't actually handle it. She can't actually hear it. doesn't actually want to see him as a puddle on the floor. It's not actually attractive or pleasant to us when our husbands show weakness.
0:36 So, we're talking out of both sides of our mouth sometimes where it's like, "No, open up, soften, share your problems. Oh my gosh, too much." You know, like hold something back, okay? Like, be a man, please. I need to lean on you. You think that's hard? Let listen to my life, right? And we immediately go into competition with him and minimize his struggle. So, it's a bit of a pressure cooker for men to have a chip on their shoulder in marriages and to feel unworthy and not good enough. So, now here I want to simplify it in the most like men for dummies 101 uh superficial maybe maybe simplified but I hope not overly so uh way just to help us get into the mindset. Okay.
1:23 The stereotype I think and it's true for men is that what they really want is to be needed, to be respected, and to make her happy.
Summary
- Men are socialized to be stoic and handle emotions internally.
- There is a societal push for men to express feelings, but this can backfire in relationships.
- Wives may struggle to handle their husbands' emotional expressions, leading to feelings of inadequacy in men.
- The pressure to conform to masculine ideals can create a "pressure cooker" effect in marriages.
- Men often desire to be needed, respected, and to make their partners happy.
- Emotional vulnerability in men can be met with mixed responses from their partners, complicating communication.
- The competition in sharing struggles can minimize men's experiences and feelings.