Anger Management For Kids - What To Do With an Angry Child | Dad University

0:00 When I was a young kid, I got angry a lot. I don't remember exactly why, but I do remember using anger as a tool to keep people away from me. I realized early on that if I got really mad at my siblings or somebody else, they would leave me alone. So it worked. Fortunately, I was taught how to manage that anger. Stopping the outbursts early on was was beneficial to me and those around me. In this video, we are discussing anger management for children.

0:34 How do we identify it and what can we do about it? Hey guys, I'm Jason Kreidman and this is dad University. We release new videos for you every Thursday, so be sure to like this video. Subscribe to the channel and click on the notifications bell so you're sure not to miss any of our videos.

1:08 Today we are talking about anger management for children. How do you know if your child has anger issues? Well, here's some common signs. Your child has trouble calming down. They are routinely not considerate of other people's feelings. Maybe they constantly need to be reminded to control their temper or they're just often aggressive towards others. So here are some ways that we can help our children manage their anger. Number one Monkey see monkey.

1:39 Do you have to take a look at yourself? Do you yell a lot? Do you get angry a little too often? We want to make sure that we are providing a good example on how to handle your emotions. You can't teach it unless you are practicing it yourself. Number two Talk about feelings. Teach your child all about the different emotions. It's good for everyone to feel and show emotion, but we have to be able to identify our emotions and manage them properly.

2:13 Talking about their feelings and improving their emotional intelligence will help them understand what they are feeling. Number three Teach coping skills. Things like squeezing a towel or hitting a punching bag or even a pillow will help them release some of that energy that can be generated by anger. Some less intense options might be self talk, some breathing techniques, or create a calm spot in the house where they can go and chill out.

2:44 Number four Establish anger rules. So on a normal day when everything is calm, establish family or house rules for when we feel angry. This might mean no slamming doors, no throwing things, no physically touching anyone, etc. You are going to have to abide by these rules as well. Number five Minimize talking. Nobody hears anything when they're angry. If you speak to them when they're angry, be calm, neutral and use as few words as necessary.

3:20 You can be firm, but yelling back at them is not going to teach them anything. Number six Use empathy. Say something like, I know you are really upset right now, or I can see that you're mad. I understand. Empathy will let them know that you hear them and you understand. And sometimes that may be all that they need. Number seven, makeup. They need to apologize to the person that they got mad at and make amends.

3:52 Teach them a phrase such as I'm really sorry. I could have handled that situation a lot better. Also, you want to make it clear to the child that their behavior was bad. They are not a bad person. It's important for them to know we all make mistakes, but we're learning to manage our anger and we'll promise to do it better next time. And finally, number eight, if things don't seem to be getting better, get professional help.

4:21 There could be other things going on that you're not aware of, or you could actually be part of the problem. I know as parents, we never want to believe that we could be causing something negative like this to happen, but it can. Well, that's all we have for today. If you enjoyed this video, please give it a thumbs up. Subscribe to the channel. Click on the notifications bell if you're watching this on YouTube and share this video on social media.

4:51 Also, we'd love to hear from you. What are some things that you have done to manage your child's anger? What are techniques that have worked for you? Leave your comments below. Thank you for watching and we'll see you next week. J.