Transcript
0:00 the standards of gentle parenting have come to a place where so many of my students come to me and say I'm afraid I'm traumatizing my child and I think to myself my goodness what kind of abuse are you visiting upon them what have you done to this poor child to traumatize them what kind of horrific scenes are you exposing them to and then inevitably the parent shares with me that they raised their voice that they've been
0:25 bribing that they've punished their child or sent them to a timeout that they told their child good girl and used too much praise friends we're starting to sound ridiculous we're starting to sound like we've lost the plot and we're starting to sound like we have zero perspective on what real adversity looks like and what real trauma constitutes no these things are not traumatic and no you are not traumatizing your child even when
0:57 you raise your voice even when you tell them your dis disappointed or ashamed in them even when you punish them and send them to their room these are not traumas this does not constitute abuse being told to stop crying being sleep trained being left with a babysitter so Mom can get a break none of these are traumas and we must stop using that frame of thinking
Summary
- Many parents fear they are traumatizing their children through typical disciplinary actions.
- Common practices like raising one's voice, using praise, or sending a child to timeout are not traumatic.
- The speaker believes that labeling these actions as abusive undermines the understanding of real trauma.
- Parenting challenges such as sleep training or leaving a child with a babysitter are normal and not harmful.
- There is a call to regain perspective on parenting and recognize the difference between discipline and trauma.