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0:03 you know parenting from the traditional parenting paradigm causes a great problem when we come to disciplining our teenagers because the traditional parenting paradigm poses the parent on this pedesta love superiority so it kind of works well till our kids hit teen years but when they hit the teen years developmentally now they're entering their own assertion their own autonomy their own independence so the parent who's been parenting from the traditional model where the parent knows best is greater than is on this
0:34 pedestal of superiority now feels highly threatened by this budding autonomous spirit who is going to challenge everything that the parent has so far taught them the the teenager really isn't doing this in a purposely devilish way the teen now because it can take care of itself is finally going to take care of its unmet needs however if there are a lot of unmet needs chances are the teen is going to act out or manifest the expression of these
1:04 unmet needs in an unhealthy way and the parent is going to feel highly triggered highly threatened and mostly unskilled not knowing how to handle the teenage the teenager so the best advice in a spiritual conscious approach to disciplining teens is to really enter a space of unequivocal acceptance because the more you enter into the power struggle with a teenager and resist them and not understand that it's simply an unmet need over the years that's now getting manifested then we're going to
1:36 widen the schism between the parent and the child and this is what traditionally happens the the space between parent and child grows wider until it's an abyss that that really breeds dysfunction and disconnection
Summary
- Traditional parenting emphasizes parental authority, which can become problematic during the teenage years.
- Teenagers seek autonomy and may challenge parental teachings, not out of rebellion but as a response to unmet needs.
- Unmet needs can lead to unhealthy expressions of behavior in teens, triggering parental anxiety and feelings of inadequacy.
- A spiritual and conscious approach to discipline involves accepting the teenager's independence rather than engaging in power struggles.
- Resistance from parents can widen the gap between them and their teens, leading to dysfunction and disconnection.
- Understanding the root of a teen's behavior as unmet needs can help parents respond more effectively.
- Building a connection through acceptance can foster healthier relationships during this developmental stage.