Are you ready for your liberation?

0:02 hello everyone come on in this is my book club number 10 for my my newest baby out there a radical awakening so a lot of you have been reading the book and writing me really personal letters about your transformations about what you resonate with so if anyone here has been reading the book share with me your epiphanies what you've been resonating with so somebody asked me recently

0:32 what's different about this book than your other books why is this book so important to you and uh sarah you just got your copy today so excited for you tell me how you like it tell me what resonates uh ma danielle says a great book smitha says i love you love the book it's made me feel so powerful within hi honey dylan anita says she cried for days why and don't forget to leave your reviews guys

1:02 kay says it's life-changing adriana says i love the book i'm two-thirds in star says i got my copy can't wait to get started i love this book i'm finally awakening dinner it's totally different it's to liberate ourselves from the shackles of the pain body just ordered it in india who's reading the book so somebody asked me i need to get a copy yes david olsen get the coffee

1:34 maya mai del mendoza got the copy today wow that's awesome trying to get the book listening to the audiobook wish i had this book 10 years ago i cried a lot and freed some rage i'm listening to it on audible i'm going to get it soon life-changing book just got the book love how you define purpose i have the audio book this book is for every woman i know i admire you so much got my book priyanka got the audio

2:05 your book is amazing everyone here has read the book amazing started reading your book i hear my nieces complaining to their mom because she's exactly what you mentioned i have to pick this up i may need to read it again patiently waiting growth versus longevity i'm finishing the audible order the book first chapter soul erosion eye opening thank you guys thank you for supporting the book so

2:35 somebody asked me what is so different about this book compared to your other books and my answer was that this book is not only my most personal book where i talk about my personal revelations my personal journey but it's just you know i'm a girl's girl i'm a sister sister and not that i'm anti-men i love men but i feel for women

3:07 because i see us so capable so powerful so intensely loving and nurturing but we're just disconnected from the powerhouse that lies within us and if only we could actualize this powerhouse of energy that's within us to use our nurturing principle but to blend it with sacred boundaries and with a defined declarative voice and a

3:39 conviction of our inner knowing we will blend our masculine with our feminine and we will truly save the planet this planet our earth is burning it's scorched because i believe it is missing the radically awakened woman's leadership and this is not to cast aside the men a radically awakened woman doesn't need to cast aside anybody a radically awakened woman keeps the men by her side because she needs them

4:10 she understands that we are interdependent the radically awakened woman is in her heart but she's in her power she understands what the greater good for all is and she knows that unless all are unequivocally healing there is no healing for one so the radically awakened woman is one who understands that until the masculine is blended with the feminine it cannot just be the masculine it cannot just be the feminine

4:43 the masculine and the feminine has to merge into an integrated whole which means that there is room for all there is interdependency the toxic hierarchies we've been living with and the toxic dualities we've been living with crumble because they are what has ruined our earth look around you there is intense capitalism intense consumerism the earth is burning our children are suffering

5:14 it's because we are waiting for the radically awakened woman so this book is very personal to me because i see the power in us women that we have denied that we have sight stepped and sidetracked in our desire to get love and worth because we are hungry for external validation because we were raised to be pleasers ways to be givers raised to be self-deniers so afraid

5:45 of being seen as selfish that we've actually because we don't want to be seen as selfish we've given up our self we just threw out the whole body with the baby with the bath water because we didn't want to be seen as selfish we ruined ourself and until we reclaim ourselves we will not raise our sons and daughters to enter their empathy to enter their empowerment to enter their

6:16 sacred boundaries and their masculinity we will not because we are disconnected from our voice you know when i left india at the age of 21 and i came to america i promise you i promise you i exalted the western woman okay no knock on indian women indian women are badass and amazing in their own way but i thought to myself surely the western woman doesn't have indian women's problems surely the western woman is badass and in her inner sovereignty and

6:47 she doesn't suffer people pleasing she doesn't suffer conflict avoidance avoidance she doesn't suffer loss of voice surely the western woman is different and when i came here and i began being a therapist and working with woman after woman i was like holy smokes the the prevalence of inner disconnection is in this woman it's in that woman it's in the rich woman it's in the white woman it's in the guatemalan woman it's

7:17 everywhere and that's why i for years have been waiting to be done with my parenting books i needed to write three parenting books and the minute i finished my third one i was like now it is time for me to do my passion project and this is my i don't think i will i don't think okay i'm projecting into the future i don't think i will love another book as much as this because this is about my rebirth

7:48 and it's about allowing other women to birth so it's very like i'm a midwife to to other women like come on birth your true self and this book reflects my birthing so it's very personal i i imagine i would love other books i write and i've got many under under construction but this one is very personal to me because i love women i see us disconnected and it frustrates me because i know that we are

8:21 capable and unpotentialized and when we potentialize and actualize our inner connection to ourselves i have seen such a huge change in me i don't know for people who have been following me for years you know people tell me you sound different you look different you you just just different and i am and i i am because my inside is transformed my my consciousness has expanded and that's what this book is for you to do for you to do to

8:53 yourself to expand your consciousness it is a book infused with my journey and my heart and my soul i mean it's just got 380 pages which was at one point 600 pages of intensity so i start the book with with a love note i start a love note to my sisters i say a love note to my sisters before you begin this book this book is about your awakening it is an ode and an homage to

9:25 your authentic self the self that is waiting to be birthed anew we all yearn to be free and yet we feel engaged in our daily lives consumed by fear and unworthiness what these pages promise you is a path out of the cage toward a new vision of yourself to awaken and evolve means to deeply understand ourselves this involves befriending the parts of us that we may not want to see

9:56 especially our pain when we fully accept our pain for what it is without sugar coating it and certainly without apologizing for it and we observe the many ways we have co-created it we can begin to transform the pain into wisdom so when i write a book i do it's not biographical and it is not entertaining i'm here to teach at my essence at my soul if you ask me what are you dr shivali i'm like i

10:23 am a teacher more than a psychologist more than anything a writer i'm just a teacher and i just happen to teach about consciousness this is my passion this is my love it is my gift to women sister to sister because nothing yes i i voice my audiobook i recorded my own audiobook yes so nothing gives me more joy than to see a woman move from fear to power

10:54 i mean there is something incredibly hypnotizing mesmerizing alluring about a woman who moves from fear to power you know when i look back on my own journey i see how trapped i was how afraid i was and you know why i was afraid not because somebody out there was tyrannizing me thank goodness not because somebody out there was holding me back but because in my mind i was more married to my

11:27 image of how i should look to the outside world i wanted to so be the good girl that i was sorry about that i was more married to my image of the good girl the savior the one who was competent and could do it all then i was to my authentic self when i realized that that you know what you are just more married more more connected more betrothed

12:00 more enslaved by your idea of who you should be than who you really are and when i realized that when it came front and center and i realized that i am living an image that i am living an idea that i am living in my fantasy of who i should be except that i was ignoring who i really was who am i now who are you now most of you like i

12:33 did for years 25 years 44 years we are living in the fantasy of an image of who we want to project ourselves to be out into the world because that's how we learned to get food emotional food it's not our fault we needed emotional food who doesn't want to eat we're like we'll do anything so we sacrificed yes you can buy this book in bulk of course you can

13:04 you can buy it at amazon in bulk if they have a bulk rate but you can also write to my office and then we can help you anyway so when when our emotional food is at stake we are very creative beings we see it in our children our children are mutating themselves all the time to get emotional love from us and this is what we did as well so when we mutate we begin to create an idea you know we we decide as

13:33 children this is how i'm going to get love and what when i shut up when i pretend when i say yes instead of no when i don't share my feelings when i don't cry so that's how i get love and worth so that becomes the false self the image and most of us are living according to the image right completely disconnected to who it is we are right here right now and for me that was my wake up call that

14:01 was my radical awakening when i realized i'm not living me i'm living for that image i'm living to have that image be approved and then comes the big decision now what now what do we do my entire life is created on that image now what how do i let go how do i dare how do i start again right and that's where your commitment to living this life authentically comes to the fore

14:31 and i had to ask myself okay if you have just one life are you going to live it in your false self or you're going to live it to try to touch your truest authentic version of you which one is it going to be shefali and this is the question you have to ask yourself what is it going to take how many more rock bottoms how many more dysfunctional relationships how many more drinking episodes how many more

15:01 days on the sofa is it going to take for you to wake up to say you know i freaking have only one life as i know it i may come back as a as a beetle or a caterpillar i really don't know so chances are it this may be it in this body so how do i want to live this life do i want to live it as a pawn to culture to society to my mom my dad

15:27 my my partner to my children and this is the liberation when you realize that you actually at the end of the day oh only yourself your truth that is a radical awakening now you may think that's so selfish you're just thinking of yourself you're just propagating a narcissistic vision of the self not true because when you own yourself when you

15:58 are connected to your knowing you actually emanate and radiate only interconnected unconditional love you know why not because you're suddenly some buddha but it goes together because when you are connected to yourself you don't need other people now you'll say dr shivali that sounds so selfish and so brutal and so cold you don't need anyone yes you don't need anyone but you are interconnected to everyone but you don't need people for love and approval and

16:30 validation and worth there's a big difference you give you don't need because you are fulfilled from within so the question to ask yourself today is what are you waiting for what are you afraid of because let me tell you once i went through my radical awakening and came out on the other side i came out free i came out unburdened i came out oh my goodness i had no words

17:03 there are no words for freedom you know the the the free air of freedom there are no words for it okay it is only an experience some things can only be experienced like the smell of a rose the touch of velvet the the beguiling colors of a sunset you can't explain the touch of a lover the touch of a baby how can you explain the softness of a baby's butt the cheeks you cannot you have to

17:31 experience it so like that freedom is indescribable but you you become it you feel it you you you embody it but you have to go through the hot coals of transformation so this book is about the hot coals of transformation and the promise of the indescribable embodiment of freedom so this is what i promise you in this book if you're willing to receive this book will deliver it is written from the depths

18:01 of my soul and it speaks to intense cataclysmic transformation so if you are ready for it this book is ready for you get the book thank you for joining me on my book club i will see you in my next book club when i see you