Gentle parenting isn’t working? Watch this! #parentingtips #consciousparenting #positiveparenting

0:00 Your child is hitting you. You are saying gentle hands, beta, for the fifth time and wondering why gentle parenting isn't working. Here's the thing, gentle parenting works, but what you're doing, that's not gentle parenting. Let me show you the difference in one interaction. Permissive parenting looks like Hit one. Ouch. Gentle hands, beta. Hit two. Please stop. I told you now we can't do this. Hit three. Okay, fine, but this is really the last. See the problem? You're asking, not leading. Now watch what gentle parenting looks like. Child hits you, you say, "I can see you're upset.

0:36 Hitting hurts. I'm not going to allow you to hit me." You gently hold their hand to stop them. "When you're ready to use gentle hands, I'm here." That's what you tell them. And you can walk away if they keep trying. Firm boundaries, calm delivery, end of discussion. Did you see? Permissive means hoping your child choose correctly, but gentle means making the choice clearly and then following through. Your child does not need you to ask them to stop 47 times.

1:03 They need you to mean it the first time. Children crave structure. It makes them feel safe. When you don't follow through, their nervous system is like, "Wait, is she serious? Let me test this 10 more times to be sure." That's not them being bad, that's them looking for the boundary and when you keep moving the boundary, they panic. Gentle parenting doesn't mean being soft. It's really the hardest thing you'll do. Yelling takes only 5 seconds, but boundaries takes 5 years of follow through.