The Right Age For A Child To Get A Phone

0:00 I don't know how many of you all have read this recent study that a lot of younger children prefer pornography to actual sex very exciting for me to be sitting across Mansi here today because I think I personally took you as a mentor when I started this parent coaching Journey so a big big and a very warm welcome from all of us here at wow thank you for making all the way to Aurangabad for us it was just a one hour flight

0:30 foreign [Music] when she was 13. and I'll be very honest if I could have deleted I would have delayed it a little bit more but it was covered um there was no way that she was staying connected with her friends and that was the one of the biggest reasons because there was just no external communication except that five hours of Zoom right I think that was it and I think everybody else was seemingly chatting with

1:01 somebody or the other and I thought that she was missing out on communication but I also have a 10 year old who doesn't care about the mobile phone I've given her one Nokia phone because we live in a really large complex and there have been three times where I have just stepped out for dinner and my mother-in-law is calling me frantically that your daughter hasn't come home and then she's gone on like a you know like a police

1:23 with a police van hunting for my daughter all around because they forget to tell us that okay I'm having dinner here or I'm here or wherever so we said okay now we've reached point that first day she carried it down by the third day I'm the only one who's charging that phone and now she's even forgotten about it um but to answer your question please understand why you want to give do you want to give let's let's for everything

1:50 that has to be a why and reasoning you know I interviewed this um one of my favorite sport Stars I don't know how many tennis fans we have called Andrea Agassi right I was a huge Agassi fan and when I interviewed him I thought um you know so I've arrived in life and he made me feel so small with his wisdom because he told me that day because he has teenage kids and he had a really bad

2:16 childhood with his father so he told me Mansi rules without a relationship will always equal to Rebellion so if you're going to make rules without having that dialogue or conversation with your childhood right how can you avoid that that's why coming back to that why why do you want a mobile phone let's I I never say no like these Jordans like for like 16 000 sometimes they were being black for thirty thousand I'm like yeah

2:49 like what is this but I can't tell that to my child because my parents maybe could not buy me shoes over 30 000. today can I buy my child shoes for 30 000 yes I can do I want to no I don't want to so can I raise my child the way I've been raised maybe not right but because I don't want her to come with the same conditioning and the same mindset that I come from

3:14 right that is very important like I get so irritated with that dialogue so why do you keep giving away boss if there's inflation what is the child supposed to do like hello like clearly just doesn't mean that the child doesn't have value because now it's for 50 rupees But to answer your question coming back to that

3:45 why why does your child want it so is it because of security because you know is your child going independently from one class to the other do they need to inform I know who kids who've also had mobile since maybe nine years of age and still treated like as a communication device versus a show-off or time consuming device right but that why is very important I gave my daughter for the longest time I think for the last

4:11 one one and a half years my daughter's Instagram account was on my phone um and she would just go to go check it whenever she wanted and you know she would switch profiles or whatever but she had the trust that my mom is not going to check my Instagram account like it is just a flip of a profile right I can easily check it but she just had that trust that no she's not checking it so I'm saying even if you're giving that

4:39 phone there's no right or wrong answer if you ask me if you want to give you should know why you're giving it what is it going to Value add because please understand this is a Time guzzler this little device you know the way it eats your time you have no idea you can't control it how are you expecting a 10 year old to have control over time how are you expecting them to understand between good and bad

5:04 right for them it's just pure entertainment right there was this one song um which was trending on reels shut up and bend over right yeah like our kids were making reels left right and Center without even understanding what that lyric means we were all doing it without even understanding or making our kids dance on it and do all sorts of without even understanding what that song was so to that same point when should you give your child what is your

5:32 child going to do with that connectivity then most definitely you know you can give a normal phone it doesn't need to be a smartphone if you're giving a smartphone what is the purpose I don't know how many of you all have read this recent study that a lot of younger children prefer pornography to actual sex how many of you all have read that study and the reason for that is because in porn movies the sex is so perfect that

6:02 they're expecting that exactly when it comes to reality and where is this coming from this is coming from early watching of screens and watching perfect screens that's why I say that delay that that ability to delay that decision delay it as much as you can without making it desirable foreign