History Has Conditioned Us To Ignore The Emotional Needs Of Men | Clips | Dad Saves America

0:00 (wind blows) - Men die earlier than women at 14 out of the 15 leading causes of death, 14 out of 15, and yet we have eight federal offices of women's health and none of men's health. - None. - None, zero. There's a little bit of a part of an office dedicated to Native American male health, but none across the board on male health. And so that just gives you a sense of the gap between the problem and the caring, so which leads to your question about why such an enormous gap.

0:39 And here's why. Throughout history, males served a major purpose. We had two purposes. One was to, each generation had its war, and when that war came and could ruin our population, Uncle Sam, or the equivalent thereof in different countries, said, "Uncle Sam needs you." What did he need that male for? He needed that male to be willing to be disposable, to risk his life to save the life of others.

1:09 So, and our parents were very proud of us, if we went into the Marines or the Army, the Navy, Air Force, on the one hand, and they were also, on the other hand, very fearful of losing us. - [John] Yeah. - And so. - As the dad of a 16 year old, I think about that and. - [Warren] All the time, of course. - And, I don't want that. I don't want them to go off and die in a war.

1:30 - Absolutely, but if you were a generation or two in the past, you wouldn't even have thought of. You would've thought about not wanting them to go off and die, but you also would've had so many messages of Hitler could take over the world, and without, you know, and if our son can go off and maybe be a force in preventing Hitler from taking over the world, you'd have mixed feelings. - Right, right. - And the problem is, when you're proud of somebody for dying in order to save you, it's difficult to emotionally attach to somebody that you may lose.

2:07 - Hmm. - Our job, as a male, was to be disposable in order to save others. There's still this enormous amount of incentive, on the part of men, to be loved by doing things that make them unloved. That is, men learn, especially, when they're fathers, that the father's catch 22 is to learn to love the family by being away from the love of the family, traveling, taking a job, that's not selling a local product, but selling a national product, no longer being the elementary school teacher, like I said before, but being, you know, the superintendent of schools.

2:51 And so men learn, especially, when they have children, that the mom has the freedom to be a full-time worker, the freedom to be full-time at home, the freedom to do work part-time, but he has the expectation to work full-time and to disconnect from what he loves to do in order to earn more money to be able to supply money for the family. And that dynamic is still going on to such a degree, that when we do surveys of women, they say that, 72% of women say that they would like men to pay on the first date, even if there was a joint decision to have that first date.

3:29 The percentage of men that agree with that, are 81% of the men agree with that. And so, still men are learning that in order to have romance and love, I have to earn more money than the female is expected to earn. She has the option, I have the expectation. - If you enjoyed this clip, we've got more where that came from. Be sure to check out our full conversation with Warren Ferrell, and subscribe to the channel, so you won't miss our interviews and short videos, as they come out each week.

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