Transcript
0:00 I want you to think if I had one word to summarize this way of intervening, which Becky even herself would not do all the time. We all get reactive. We all need a doover. But if there was one word, what would it be? And there's no right answer, okay? There's no quiz, but I'm going to share with you the one word that comes to mind for me. Trust. Trust that I have a good kid under whole range of bad behavior. Trust in myself that I could help figure this out. And I think one of the biggest things we lose access to when we're in a moment of panic and parenting is trust in time. Like I don't need to react a certain way. Like well you're getting your iPad taken away. And then my kid goes no. And then in some ways I'm like I trust that this is going to change because my kids screamed in reaction to my random punishment. Like we almost trust our kids' immediate reaction about a consequence more than we trust how something feels or ourselves or a process or time. I have time to figure this out with him. I trust that I have skills that I could teach him. I trust that I have my own experiences where I know I have some bad days and weeks and then I can get back on track. I trust that. And maybe at the core of everything we do here is just I have a good kid who's having a hard time.
Summary
- Trust is essential in parenting, especially when dealing with difficult behaviors.
- Parents often lose trust in themselves and the process during moments of panic.
- It's important to recognize that children can have bad days but still be fundamentally good.
- Trusting time allows parents to respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.
- Parents should believe in their ability to teach and guide their children through challenges.
- Acknowledging that both parents and children can experience ups and downs is crucial for effective parenting.