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0:01 [Music] one thing that you'll find with your children is they're gonna fight they're gonna pick on each other and tease each other so in this case what you want to do is teach them a life skill when this happens so you go to the victim first say I've one kid pushes the other one off the couch you go to the victim first you notice she just pushed you off the couch and you ask the victim did you
0:30 like it did you like it your brother just pushed you off the couch and they'll say no then teach that child to say I don't like it when you push me off the couch if you want to sit here ask me to move then turn to the aggressor and say you wanted your sister to move when you want your sister to move same oath please so what you're doing is taking both kids teaching them a life skill
0:54 they can use outside playing and through the rest of life just saying stop it won't cut it and also that's not going to exactly fix this because siblings do fight so send them outside and let them roughhouse without you interfering
Summary
- Sibling conflicts are common and can be used as teaching moments.
- Approach the victim first to acknowledge their feelings about the aggression.
- Teach the victim to articulate their discomfort and set boundaries.
- Address the aggressor by encouraging them to communicate their desires respectfully.
- Emphasize that simply telling siblings to stop is insufficient for resolving conflicts.
- Allow siblings to engage in roughhousing outside under supervision to promote healthy play.