Your baby prefers the Nanny over you? #parenting #healthyparenting #positiveparenting

0:00 My baby reaches for the nanny before me. I feel like I'm losing him. A friend told me this last week. She was crying. And uh if you're in the same boat, I need to tell you about how attachment actually works. Children don't necessarily prefer people who give birth to them. They might prefer people who show up consistently. If the nanny is there for every nap time, every hard moment, every meltdown, their nervous system learns when I need help, she comes. That's not about you being a bad mom. That's not about her being a better person. That's just how babies are wired. So, I'm telling you what I told her. You can rebuild attachment, but you have to show up differently. So, pick up one daily moment where emotions are high and you handle it. The bedtime tears, the morning fussiness, the little tantrum over meal times, you are handling it. Not just the fun stuff, also the hard stuff. Pick the moment, own it, and handle it for the next couple of days. Because the research is clear, attachment isn't just built during playtime. It's also built when they're upset and someone helps them feel safe again. So parents, you can become your child's safe space again.

1:06 And the answer isn't quitting your job or drowning in guilt. As a parent, you have control over this connection. You just need the right framework.