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0:00 We think like, "Oh, my job is to like help my kid be successful, help my kid be happy, help my kid be okay." The irony is the things that we do short-term to optimize our kids' comfort are all the things that lead to long-term anxiety and fragility. It's just like a deep irony. Because helping your kid learn to tolerate, "I wish I was on the A team." actually is going to be the thing that makes them resilient and more able to take on challenges when they're older cuz they're like, "I was on a B team the whole year and like it wasn't my favorite, but I survived it. That's the best it gets. I survived it. I survived the feeling." And so I think the framework we practice here is we're long-term greedy. And we know even as the things on the surface change, when your kid's 20, they're not going to be probably worried about A team, B team soccer, but they will be thinking about who gets a promotion, they will be noticing in their friends who got a better job when they're older, who gets married, who has a big house, and that's actually all the same feeling. And so just know you're building long-term resilience by helping your kid tolerate the hard things, and that changes our framework and makes it a little easier.
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Summary
- Short-term comfort measures can lead to long-term anxiety and fragility in children.
- Experiencing setbacks, like being on a less desirable sports team, builds resilience.
- Children learn to tolerate disappointment, which prepares them for adult challenges.
- The focus should be on long-term growth rather than immediate success or happiness.
- Resilience is developed through overcoming difficult experiences.
- Parents should adopt a "long-term greedy" mindset in their approach to parenting.
- Future adult concerns will mirror childhood challenges, emphasizing the importance of resilience.