If You're Struggling To Get Pregnant, Watch This

0:00 so many women really have a hard time when they cannot get pregnant you know part of it is because we are raised with this idea that one day we're going to be wives and mothers and part of it is because we are biologically so primed to NACHA you know we want to take care of people and we believe that becoming a mother is our destiny so when we don't fulfill that destiny we almost equate it to not

0:28 being complete and that's devastating for so many women my advice to women typically when they're struggling to get pregnant is really to take a pause and re-examine this arduous expectation they're putting on themselves you know sometimes it's just biologically impossible for some bodies to get pregnant and that's an inevitability that we just need to accept just like some of us are short some of us are tall some of us have long blond hair some of

1:00 us have dark hair you know our bodies are designed differently so the first thing we need to make peace with is that our biology may just not be primed for motherhood you know I could only have one child and I had to accept that that that was okay that that didn't make me a lesser of a woman because I could only bear one child and we have to separate our worth as human beings as women from

1:27 our identity so that's a lot of work I know because we've been raised with such a firm and strict understanding of what it means to be a woman but really being a woman has a lot to do with our nurturing and our giving but it doesn't necessarily have to do with our being a mother so I encourage any woman out there who believes that she needs to become a mother that she needs to understand that she's already a mother you know each one

1:57 of us as a woman holds a mothering capacity within us each one of us is already a nurturer a caregiver so we can access our mothering in many different ways we can take care of other people's children we can adopt we can raise animals we can run a school there are many ways that we can channel this deep desire to nurture and protect and provide and care give outside of being a

2:27 mother the mothering function is not limited to our biology our mothering nature doesn't come from our role as a mother we are all mothers and when we understand that then whether we have a child or not is not the heart of the issue the heart of the issue is our capacity as women to love to nurture so if you know somebody who is struggling because she can't become a mother then we need to help her understand that

2:56 she's already your mother [Music]