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0:00 Okay, fun fact. So, between the ages of three and six, kids are still trying to learn the difference between fantasy and reality. But this goes beyond monsters and fairy tales. This also includes trying to understand the impact and power of their words and actions. So, whenever your child gets disrespectful, maybe they curse or hit their sibling, I want you to remember that they're learning. And I know this is very annoying to hear, but think of it like this. They are conducting real time experiments about impact and power.
0:32 They're not just trying to be defiant. They're trying to literally map out cause and effect in their social world. So this is why simply just trying to tell them, "No, stop. We don't do that. It rarely works long term because kids need to understand the why through experience, not instruction." So, in the moment, focus on trying to help them understand the impact of their choices in a non-judgmental way and also give them alternatives that they can test out. So, check out the caption for some scripts on how to do
Summary
- Kids are experimenting with cause and effect in their social interactions.
- Disrespectful behavior, like cursing or hitting, is part of their learning process.
- Simply telling them to stop often fails because they need to understand the "why."
- Focus on non-judgmental discussions about the impact of their actions.
- Provide alternative behaviors for them to explore and test.
- Encourage experiential learning rather than just verbal instruction.