The Harmful Marriage Pattern Every Wife Does

0:00 society at large is very wedded to this idea of equity and that everybody has to do the same same same and then we reserve the right to be angry when he doesn't right like maybe you had an idea in your mind like oh both of us need to get up with the baby or you know I don't know some kind of sameness okay both of us should we should both do stuff in the kitchen the same amount etc and the fact is that I think many women make subconscious decisions about their life and then reserve the right to complain about it. You want to go out and work a full-time job in an office?

0:36 Go for it. Who's holding you back? No problem. You're in a free country. You have equal rights. People fought and died for your rights. You want to go and do that? Go and do that. But no, she doesn't want to go and do that. Not for real. For real, she doesn't want to go and do that. For real, she doesn't want a nanny raising her kids. She doesn't want to pay a housekeeper to do the house. She wants to do those things but then complain about it, right? And I know that because I've been in that situation, right? Where I take on things. Oh, and I'm going to homeschool them. Oh, and I'm going to take them to the playground every day. Oh, and I'm and then I point a finger at my husband and I'm like, you did this to me, right?

1:15 Like, you know how women say that when they're giving birth, you did this to Oh, you weren't there, ma'am. Oh, you you weren't part of this pro. You didn't say yes to this. You know, and it's that lack of accountability that I think is very harmful to marriages. It's like, listen, honey, you're not happy with your role. Change it. Do something else. Go find a job. Hire a nanny. Put the kids in daycare till till 6 p.m. Make your choices, but then own them. Okay.