I am a New Father - Why am I Not Enjoying Fatherhood? | Dad University

0:00 I was talking with a friend the other day who is a new father they just had their baby boy and he says to me Jason I'm really not enjoying this you know fatherhood is not what I expected I'm just not bonding with them I don't feel connected my wife's breastfeeding so I can't help there and when I am around him I just he doesn't really react he just kind of sits there I assured him these are

0:28 common issues I went through this stuff myself many new fathers experienced struggles right after the birth of their baby in this episode we're gonna review some of what those struggles are so that you can start feeling good and enjoying fatherhood hey guys I'm Jason cried man and welcome to another episode of dad University we cover a different dad advice topic every Thursday so be sure to give this video a thumbs up subscribe

0:58 to the channel and click on that notification bell so you know when we upload new videos if I'm honest when I had my first child I didn't bond with him right away I didn't feel the same connection that I know my wife felt she felt it immediately and I was a little bit lost about that I I recall being upset as a new father you are excited about fatherhood and then reality hits this little thing isn't reacting to you

1:28 yet and if your wife's breastfeeding you're not feeding it and it's just not very rewarding there isn't a lot of interaction that takes place in the beginning not to mention you're getting less sleep you're spending money on stuff you didn't even realize you were going to have to spend money on and you're less intimate with your wife now you might be thinking if I knew all these things I may not have signed up for this I didn't really know what I was

1:55 getting myself into so understand the feelings of frustration that you might be having totally normal or expectations that you had that just aren't being met totally normal - well first you might have to change your expectations but take a deep breath and understand that everything that you were experiencing is very common what I can tell you is this doesn't last very long your baby will begin to smile when you smile your baby will laugh when you

2:26 laugh and this will touch your heart like nothing has ever touched it before your baby will begin to react to you and know that you are his or her dad fatherhood isn't easy and there's tons of challenges especially in the beginning as a new father but if you provide your child affection you're doing bath time you're helping out with feedings you're helping your wife where you can it will all come together you might still get less sleep but you'll be

2:58 okay you begin to understand how important your role is and how crucial fatherhood is how important it is for you to be there you'll begin to bond and connect with your baby and then as a new father you'll understand that you are going to learn new things every day we have some crazy stuff going on in this world right now and kids need their fathers they need their fathers badly it is so important for us to step up be

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